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Top New Year's resolutions for families

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Don't make unrealistic New Year's resolutions that you'll break before you know it. Instead, make some new commitments as a family to spend more time together, argue less and stay active.

Don't make unrealistic New Year's resolutions that you'll break before you know it. Instead, make some new commitments as a family to spend more time together, argue less and stay active.

Family New Year's resolutions

Sit down to dinner

Eating family dinners together has been linked to lower incidence of teen smoking, drinking and drug use. Additionally, research shows that kids who eat with their family also get better grades. And if you need more reasons to sit down to dinner, meals at home cost less than eating out, plus you'll be able to ensure your kids are consuming their veggies, trying new foods and eating more healthfully. This year, make a resolution to sit down and eat dinner together as a family at least four nights a week.

Stop overscheduling

Are your kids scheduled from breakfast to bedtime? Scheduling your kids for every extracurricular activity and event possible doesn't make you a good parent. You have to find the balance of letting your children participate in activities they enjoy, while also allowing time for free play, friends, family and sleep. Parents who overschedule their kids often overschedule themselves too. Make a promise to yourself and your family to ease back on all the structure and planning to allow everyone to have a little more free time.

With all of his activities, is your child overscheduled?>>

Unplug once a week

Technology is great and we certainly can't live without it. However, if your family is always on the computer, watching TV or playing video games, it's time to take a break and reconnect with each other. Dedicate one day a week as an "unplugged" day. On this day, turn off computers, televisions, smartphones and all other electronics. Use this day to get back to basics.

  • Go hiking, biking or swimming.
  • Create a special arts and crafts project.
  • Cook a meal together as a family.
  • Set aside a couple of hours for reading time.
  • Visit the home of family or friends.
  • Do some spring cleaning.
  • Draw, paint or take pictures.
  • Plant a vegetable garden.
  • Play board games or cards.
  • Spend time talking, relaxing and laughing.

Read about ways to maximize your family's time together>>

Plan family fitness days

Keep your family fit and healthy by holding family fitness days. Take a walk together every evening, plus use the weekends to try out new fun ways to exercise.

  • Take a hike or bike ride at your local park.
  • Create an obstacle course in your backyard.
  • Play laser tag or paintball.
  • Go rollerblading or ice skating.
  • Join a family flag football or soccer league.
  • Sign up with martial arts classes.

Laugh more, argue less

Probably the most important thing you can do for your family is to enjoy life and avoid arguments. Don't sweat the small stuff. Create a laid back atmosphere in your household with lots of laughs and love. Control your temper and be kind to others, and your children with follow suit. Reducing confrontations and stress leads to a healthy and happy environment for everyone.

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Famous January birthday baby names

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Whether you are due in the month of January or have a birthday then, find out which celebrities will blow out candles this month. Want a hint? Oprah, Justin Timberlake, Kate Moss and the First Lady Michelle Obama are among the celebrities who celebrate a birthday this month.

The first month of the year is a big one for celebrity birthdays! If you are expecting a baby in January, perhaps you can be inspired and find a baby name from the famous names of those your baby will share a birthday with. Click on the name to find out the meaning and origin of each name.

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  • Kate Moss
  • Michelin Tires founder Andre Michelin
  • Aaliyah

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  • Tiffani Thiessen
  • Mariska Hargitay
  • Chesley Sullenberger

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January horoscopes and holidays

If you are born between December 22 and January 19 you are a Capricorn. If you are born between January 20 and February 18 you are an Aquarius.

January 1 is New Year's Day, while January 21 is Martin Luther King Jr. Day. In case you needed an excuse, January 27 is Chocolate Cake Day.

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New Year's resolutions that every mom makes... and why it's OK to break them

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It's New Year's and it's resolution time again. As moms, we're always working to improve ourselves so that we can also improve the lives of our kids, but being realistic is key when it comes to resolutions for moms. We broke down some common mom resolutions to make them easy for all of us to conquer this year.
The reality of resolutions for moms
Happy woman cleaning

New year, new you

It's New Year's and it's resolution time again. As moms, we're always working to improve ourselves so that we can also improve the lives of our kids, but being realistic is key when it comes to resolutions for moms.

We broke down some common mom resolutions to make them easy for all of us to conquer this year.

I will keep the house cleaner

Raise your hand if this is on your list of New Year's resolutions... every single year. Moms, it's time to get real — if you have kids at home, your house is never going to be perfectly clean. From the sports gear dumped in the entryway to the sticky fingerprints on the stainless steel refrigerator, making a resolution to keep the house cleaner is only going to send you in circles all year. Instead, pick a couple of things to resolve to keep clean at home — to fold laundry on Fridays or to clean out one closet once a month. Specific cleaning goals will help you have resolution success.

Great advice on how to revamp and declutter your closet>>

I will make a healthy, homemade dinner every night

Less boxed macaroni and cheese and more fresh vegetables? It's on every mom's New Year's resolution list — especially after the holidays, when healthy, balanced meals may have been few and far between. If better family meals are on your resolution list, keep the pressure low by trying some simple meal planning first. Try setting a general weekly menu plan with meals that are easy and quick to make for busy weekday evenings. Spending a small amount of planning time each week will make it easier to stick to your healthier meal plan.

I will spend less time plugged in

The amount of time we spend online is a concern for this generation of moms. It's so easy to get sucked into browsing Pinterest or checking Facebook that it's likely there are many moms who are resolving to spend less time plugged in. Cut yourself some slack by admitting that you enjoy spending time online and that it can be a great way to wind down or have some "me" time. Make this an easy resolution to succeed at by giving yourself times during the day where you can jump online — first thing in the morning while your kiddos catch a cartoon or during naptime instead of doing that extra load of laundry.

Find out how to monitor your child's online activity>>

I will take more pictures of my kids

When you're carrying a sippy cup, two coats, the scooter that your child decided he didn't want to ride anymore and a bag of groceries, it's nearly impossible to dig your camera out of your purse to catch a precious moment on film. Try making it a goal to take a picture each week and work your way up from there. If you don't already own one, get a phone with a great camera on it — you're sure to take more pictures with it always close by. Little ones grow so quickly, the picture you take today will become a treasure before you know it.

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Pint-sized New Year’s resolutions

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Little resolutions should be fun and inspiring. Without taking things too seriously, help your kids plot out some New Year’s resolutions. Use the holiday as a chance to encourage kids to evaluate their own behavior and set goals related to health, school and fun.
Resolutions for the whole family
Girl writing in a journal

Little resolutions should be fun and inspiring. Without taking things too seriously, help your kids plot out some New Year’s resolutions. Use the holiday as a chance to encourage kids to evaluate their own behavior and set goals related to health, school and fun.

set goals for
the new year

Take the opportunity to teach your children to make healthy, attainable New Year’s resolutions. Use the holiday as a teaching tool, encouraging kids to get away from resolutions that focus too heavily on physical traits and unreasonable goals.

Make New Year’s resolutions a family tradition

Set aside a special afternoon or evening to talk about New Year’s resolutions with your kids. Make it a fun activity, with an emphasis on reflection and planning. Share your own personal resolutions with your children, explaining that adults may have different goals and plans for the year than children do. Talk about what you can accomplish as individuals and what you can accomplish together. Try giving kids a few days to reflect before you meet again to talk about their plans. Keep the atmosphere light. This activity should be fun and age-appropriate, without leading kids to feel pressure to improve or change.

Learn how to create a family bucket list>>

Use tools to guide your resolutions

"Children’s resolutions don’t have to be centered around self-improvement."

Create a list, chart or art project to plot out the major accomplishments your family and your children have had during the year. They can be simple accomplishments, like a trip to the beach or milestones like losing a front tooth. As your kids reflect on the year your family has had, it can help them learn to look ahead and think about things they’d like to do. Children's resolutions don’t have to be centered around self-improvement. If your second grader’s main goal is to travel to a theme park or play little league baseball, have an accepting and positive attitude. Keep your family record of the previous year so you can compare from year to year.

Discover 7 ways to make your family a priority>>

Encourage your children to keep a journal throughout the year

As your kids make New Year’s resolutions, teach them to track their plans and the journey they begin this New Year's. Even very young children can use a journal. Give your children blank books or plain spiral-bound notebooks. Use age-appropriate methods of journaling, from drawings to basic sentences. If your child is old enough to want privacy, allow him to keep his journal to himself unless he wants to share it. The process of keeping a journal can be part of your child’s New Year’s resolutions. Explain to your child that a year from now, he’ll have a special way to look back at his accomplishments and feelings.

New Year’s resolutions for kids

Do your kids need guidance in making resolutions? Here are some examples:

  • Make a new friend.
  • Help someone in need.
  • Try a new hobby.
  • Eat three new foods.
  • Play a board game as a family.
  • Write a letter to a family member.
  • Explore a new place.

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6 New Year's resolutions for parents of teens

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Parenting teens is a difficult task — and one that keeps changing as your teen matures. When you spend more time having yelling matches and pushing each other’s buttons, it’s time for a truce. We have six great ideas for starting the new year off on the right foot with your teen.
Mom and teen girl cooking

Start the new year off on the right foot

Parenting teens is a difficult task — and one that keeps changing as your teen matures. When you spend more time having yelling matches and pushing each other’s buttons, it’s time for a truce. We have six great ideas for starting the new year off on the right foot with your teen.

If you thought parenting toddlers was a challenge, wait until they are teens. No matter how patient and calm a parent you strive to be, teens are just a challenge to your parenting skills. Start the new year off with a fresh set of teen parenting tools and see if you can tame the teen beast.

Deborah Gilboa, M.D.— also known as Dr. G — is a board certified family physician, parenting expert, writer and mother of four who loves to help parents increase their knowledge and follow the parenting instincts they already have. We asked Dr. G to share some New Year's resolutions for parents of teens.

Share a hobby

"Ask your teen to make a list of five different activities that they would like to learn more about or do once a week or month with you," says Dr. G. "Then choose one of those hobbies and put it on your schedules. Make this time an argument-free zone, treated like you would a friends-night-out, a safe zone for both of you to focus on a common task and enjoy each other." In order to keep the momentum going, make the rule that you can each only cancel once in the next three months.

Let your teen make some mistakes

It's hard to watch your teen make a mistake — but important for their growth. "We all want to protect our children, but none of us can protect adults from their own actions," Dr. G shares. "As our kids are in this transition time, let them make some errors in judgment and then let them live with the consequences. This cycle — making a mistake, suffering consequences and then facing another decision — is crucial to building resilient adults and builds confidence too." Stepping back and watching them figure things out may be difficult, but it's necessary.

Make your teen your cruise director

Planning your family fun time for the new year? Resolve to let your teen take charge, and watch what happens. "Decide on a budget and a timeframe and then ask your teen to plan a trip for the two of you or for your family. When they ask why, explain that you’d just like to have fun together," says Dr. G. "Give them a budget and a list of what it covers — lodging, food, transportation, entertainment. Then do whatever they suggest. They may be surprised at your compliance, and you’ll be amazed at the relationship building."

Don't judge out loud

Are you feeling a bit squeamish about that new friend with the glow-in-the-dark hair? Watch what you say to your daughter about her friend. Your teen is smart enough to know how you probably feel about her edgy pals, but unless they are truly a danger to her don't engage in a debate. A better approach would be to ask more positive questions about the friendship — what they have in common, like art or music — or invite the friend over for dinner. Your teen will be surprised and also be making her own decisions about relationships.

How to try not to sabotage your teen's social life>>

text messageText some positivity

Dr. G has a great way for parents of teens to be present in their lives, but not intrusive. "Set yourself a reminder in your phone — daily if you’re ambitious, or weekly or whenever — and text your teen something you admire about them. Focus on what they do and not on traits over which they have no control." While you may not always get a response, this positive praise will surprise them, and is bound to make you feel good too. So much of what teens hear is negative, why not celebrate the positive?

Make a tech contract

Wouldn't you love to stop arguing with your kids about anything online? "Computers, cell phones, social networking — all of this is about freedom for the teen and control for the parents," says Dr. G. "Make a contract that lists the boundaries of which technologies your teen may use, during what hours and to what purposes. Make a corresponding list of the privileges your teen can keep if they follow these rules and which privileges they can earn by keeping to the rules with few or no reminders." Setting ground rules takes away the nagging and complaining from both parents and teens. "Then," adds Dr. G, "and here is the hard part — do not hassle your child for anything they use technology for within those boundaries!"

What you should know about teens and the consequences of social media>>

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Money resolutions for the new year

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Many families are digging out from recent snowstorms, but others are digging out from outrageous debt. Whether you overspent on Christmas or last summer’s vacation, the new year is the time to get your financial house in order.

Many families are digging out from recent snowstorms, but others are digging out from outrageous debt. Make a plan to get your finances under control in the new year.

Drowning in debt?

Whether you overspent on Christmas or last summer’s vacation, the new year is the time to get your financial house in order.

Your kids got everything they wanted for Christmas, but at what cost? Getting in over your head with Christmas spending is a common problem, so Andrew Schrage, co-owner of Money Crashers Personal Finance, offers some practical tips to help families reduce debt and get money matters under control.

“One thing that is important for parents to realize is that regardless of whether they overspent on a recent vacation or during the holidays, there's nothing that can be done to change that,” says Schrage. “What can be done is the creation of a plan to pay off the debt as quickly as possible.”

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Pay off credit card debt

“The time is now to get your credit cards paid off, and you must commit to never carrying a balance again,” advises Schrage. “This should be your number one goal going forward as these wasted interest payments are killing you financially.”

Don’t use your credit cards to pay for ballet lessons or private school tuition. In fact, don't use them at all unless you can afford to pay off whatever amount is due at the end of each month.

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Get on a budget

“In order to free up funds to apply to your balances, you must establish a personal budget,” Schrage explains. “Compare your total monthly income to your monthly expenditures. Then, identify the ways you can cut back on your expenses to ensure that you are spending less than you are earning.”

With the start of the new year, you’ll need a planner to track your family’s activities. Along with Johnny’s piano lessons and Susie’s softball practices, you should also document money coming in and going out .

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Reduce monthly bills

Modern families are high-tech families, and staying connected means big monthly utility bills. “Review each monthly billing statement and look for unnecessary fees applied to your accounts. Contact each provider and work to get these fees eliminated,” suggests Schrage.

“Research new cell phone, cable TV and internet packages. The chances are high that you can find ways to save by switching companies. You may even want to consider bundling these services to save even more.”

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Prevent future overspending

“In order to keep yourself from falling back into personal debt, you must find a way to prevent overspending going forward,” says Schrage. “Here is the simplest solution: Each time you reach for your wallet or purse, ask yourself, ‘Do I really need this?’ If you take the time to think about it, you'll find that in most cases the answer is no.”

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Clip coupons to save on groceries

Free up even more funds to devote to your credit card balance. Reduce your grocery bill — by as much as 80 percent — simply by clipping coupons! "Buy multiple copies of the Sunday paper and put together a filing system so you can use your coupons before they expire,” advises Schrage. “Find out when your grocer doubles the value of coupons and shop exclusively on that day. Sign up for the customer loyalty programs to receive even more coupons and special offers.”

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Generate income in spare time

“Instead of surfing the internet or watching television after you've called it a day at work, consider some of the many ways to generate income in your spare time,” says Schrage. “You can sell your old digital cameras, cell phones or other small electronics for a profit on websites such as Amazon or eBay, or even fill out paid online surveys.”

Do you have a special area of expertise? Consider launching a consulting business! “Get some business cards printed, spread the word to family and friends and start business pages on social media websites such as Facebook and Twitter,” recommends Schrage. “The amount of money you can generate is virtually unlimited — it could even eventually blossom into a full-time career.”

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Apps to keep moms organized in the New Year

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Vow to stay organized in 2013 with a little help from these apps. These iPhone and Android apps allow moms to manage everything from family schedules to simple to-do lists to complex ongoing family projects.

Ringya

Ringya app

Keeping your contact lists up-to-date and always at your fingertips has never been easier. Now with the Ringya app, moms can simply snap photos of class lists, sports rosters, parent association contacts and other important lists with their smartphones to create organized, sharable digital files. You can get rid of all the paper and the lists will be transformed into digital "Rings" that you can access anytime. You can find contacts easier, filtering by role, name or title. Also, you can call, text or email the entire group . You'll know who’s calling you and easily see how they fit into your world with Ringya’s contextual caller ID. You can share the lists and whenever anyone changes their info, the whole group will get the update. Ringya is a free app that is available now for iPhone and Android.

Intuition+

Intuition+ app

Designed just for busy moms, the all-new and improved Intuition+ app is a must-have. Create and manage to-do lists, appointment calendars, shopping lists and other organizing essentials. The app also features "Mom's Toolkit" with advice from mom bloggers and other experts that include tips and activities for kids, self-care for moms and much more. Plus, you get Intuition's "Personal Assistant" with advice, tips and motivational messages. What we love is the Smart Grocery List with hundreds of items in the database and the ability to easily add your own. You can also sync the Intuition app with your Google calendar or other calendaring program so you'll always be on top of all your appointments and tasks.

Awesome Note

Awesome Note app

This all-in-one app will cost you a few bucks but it's worth every penny. Awesome Note combines note-taking and to-do lists in one easy to use, comprehensive iPhone/iPad app. It also features event lists, checklists, a diary or travel journal, alarm task alerts and much more. You can attach photos, drawings and maps to your notes. Display to-dos, notes and events in the calendar. You can also sync and transfer your info to Google Docs or Evernote. Plus, you can easily share or email notes directly from the app. Users love the brilliant interface, the drag-and-drop function and the fact that no internet connection is required to add your notes.

2Do

2Do app

If you want to spend a little money on a fantastic app to stay organized, the 2Do app is definitely worth the $10 price tag. This app is available for iOS , as well as Mac OS and Android. Whether you prefer simple checklists or complex project management programs, you can customize this task manager to fit your need. Create projects, checklists or simple tasks. You can drag and drop tasks from and to the lists, as well as sync tasks across all your devices by using Dropbox, Toodledo, iCloud Reminders and other methods. You can share tasks via email, SMS or Twitter. You can create smart lists, add keyword tags, attach contacts to tasks, add voice notes and use numerous other cool functions.

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My kids are driving me to drink

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Parenting is a seriously stressful occupation that can push moms to their limits on a daily basis. Some learn to handle the stress in healthy ways, but others may find themselves turning to alcohol.

Parenting and alcohol

Parenting is a seriously stressful occupation that can push moms to their limits on a daily basis.

Some learn to handle the stress in healthy ways, but others may find themselves turning to alcohol.

If you find yourself reaching for a bottle when life gets tough in the parenting trenches, now is a good time to evaluate your behavior… before it gets out of control. Dr. Brittany Thomas-Ottino, Psy.D., clinical psychologist and program director at the Gateway Foundation Alcohol & Drug Treatment in Springfield, Illinois, sheds light on this important topic.

Stress trigger

Although parenting does not directly cause alcoholism , it can absolutely contribute to a mom’s increased stress level. One of the biggest challenges a mom faces is managing daily stress which can include crazy schedules, overlapping commitments, discipline problems, financial concerns and medical issues. When a mom doesn’t handle stress effectively, she may be susceptible to alcohol abuse. "The consumption of alcohol, a depressant, slows down body functions and makes most individuals feel more relaxed," says Dr. Thomas-Ottino. "Physical tension in the muscles may relax and alleviate pain or bothersome cramping, anxiety about a hectic schedule may temporarily decrease, heart rate may slow down, and a racing mind may be more at ease for sleep."

Find out how to de-stress your stressed mom life>>

Never a good option

While many moms could benefit from a bit of relaxation, abusing alcohol to get there is never a good option. "Both independently and when combined with many prescription and over-the-counter medications , the effects of alcohol can be extremely dangerous and in some cases even lethal," says Dr. Thomas-Ottino. "Parents need to know their limits, be able to identify signs that they are reaching those limits, and have a plan to manage once the limit is reached." For most moms, eliminating stress is virtually impossible so having a keen awareness of anxiety levels and a network of either professional or personal support will help avoid the pitfalls of addiction.

Real moms share stress-busting advice>>

Red flags

Alcohol abuse can creep up sneakily but there are definitely warning signs attached to this addiction. If alcohol plays a significant role in a mom’s life, a serious problem could be on the horizon. According to Dr. Thomas-Ottino, "Warning signs include the inability to deal with stress that becomes disabling or interferes with daily functioning without drinking, fluctuating emotions or ongoing depression, hostility and/or resentments toward children or partner, persistent headaches , cravings for alcohol that may be associated with negative thoughts or events involving one's family or parenting responsibilities." Excessive drinking leads to abuse so moms need to be aware of their consumption as well as their attitude and behaviors toward alcohol.

Read more: Young parents more likely to be depressed>>

Get help. Now.

Time is truly of the essence when it comes to abuse — of any kind. Given the prevalence of available resources to help battle alcoholism, help is accessible to most moms. "Our daily responsibilities as a parent are often overwhelming, and affect the lives of others — our children," says Dr. Thomas-Ottino. "If a woman begins to recognize that she is becoming dependent on alcohol or drinking excessively, then she may be placing her own children at risk." Moms have so many options when it comes to seeking help including peer support via online forums, speaking with a healthcare professional, confiding in family and/or friends, 12-step programs and clinical rehabilitation programs.

For more information on alcohol abuse and/or treatment, visit the Gateway Foundation Alcohol & Drug Treatment website or call their 24-hour helpline at 877-505-HOPE .

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A post-holiday purge extends the season of philanthropy

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Holiday decorations are being stored, a chaotic house returning to order, and resolutions being made for a new year. You may also notice that your child’s toy collection has multiplied. January is a great time to donate some of the excess and involve your child in post-holiday charity.

Holiday decorations are being stored, a chaotic house returning to order, and resolutions being made for a new year. You may also notice that your child’s toy collection has multiplied.

Declutter, downsize and donate

January is a great time to donate some of the excess and involve your child in post-holiday charity.

Many families engage in charitable giving and acts of kindness during the holidays. January, a month of fresh starts and resolutions, offers a great opportunity to continue the philanthropic momentum into the new year while simultaneously organizing your home.

Make it a family event

A post-holiday toy purge is certainly not a new concept, however many parents donate old and outgrown toys without their child’s participation. Some even make it a clandestine operation to avoid a child’s protest or upset. Experts suggest otherwise.

Author Peter Walsh cautions against giving a child’s possessions away without his or her knowledge as it could potentially result in feelings of loss or resentment at their lack of input. Furthermore, if the goal is to involve your child in philanthropy it is important to make the time and effort to create a “teachable moment.”

Allowing a child to be an active part of the toy donation roundup, even if he or she expresses sad or conflicted emotions, is actually a valuable lesson in creating charitable hearts. The difficulty children have parting with possessions helps them experience the personal sacrifices that accompany service and charity. Philanthropy always involves giving something up — whether it be your time, your money or your things. The important lesson is that the feeling of reward is always worth the sacrifice.

Here are some tips to a successful post-holiday toy purge that will streamline the toy clutter and allow your child to participate in an act of charity.

Get children involved and excited

Tell your child what you are going to do together and block off ample time to do it. Be strategic and schedule it before the “new toy honeymoon period” wears off. If your child becomes easily distressed at parting with their items, talk about it for a few days prior to the project. Focus on not the “loss” of items but on the children in need who will be receiving them. Phrase things as “giving to others” rather than “getting rid of.” Remind them of all the fun new things they have and how it is important to make space for them.

Take inventory and sort

Go through the various rooms in the house and assess each toy, book, stuffed animal and game. What haven’t they played with in a while? Are there toys there that are no longer developmentally appropriate? Make four piles — toys to donate, toys of sentimentality, toys that are broken and damaged and an “unsure” pile. Appropriately discard the broken toys and box the gently-used toys for donation. Keep the sentimental toys and store the “unsure” toys in a box labeled with the date. If your child hasn’t requested those items in two months from that date, donate the box.

Choose a charity and donate

Many local organizations accept gently-used children’s items such as shelters, hospitals, churches, police departments, daycares, Head Start programs and doctor’s offices. Public libraries accept books in good condition. Remember, take your child along when you drop off the donations.

Pick-up services are also available. A good resource is Donation Town, a nationwide, free toy donation pick-up service in which your toys go to a local charity of your choice.

Taking the time to purge unused and outgrown toys will result in less clutter and full hearts.

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Parents be aware: Dangerous teen trends

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You should be aware of the dangerous teen trends that could be occurring among your teen's peer groups.
What are your kids doing?
Teen dangers

Teens are full of ideas — some of them great and others dangerous. While you're likely aware of the good things happening in your teen's life, you should also be aware of the dangerous teen trends that could be occurring among their peer groups.

Butt chugging, vampire biting, chatroulette... is your teen involved?

SheKnows editor-in-chief Crystal Patriarche recently appeared on ABC News 10 to discuss some of the scary trends today's teens could be involved in — things that parents might not even know exist.

Salt and ice

Salt and ice

How dangerous can two simple items that everyone has in their homes really be? The answer is very dangerous, actually. Teens are participating in the salt and ice challenge, which SheKnows parenting writer, Sherri Kuhn explained in July.

"The challenge involves nothing more than a handful of salt and some ice cubes," Kuhn wrote. "Participants pour the salt into their hand and then add the ice cubes. Some simply close their fist and see how long they can hold it closed — others actually have friends press the salt/ice mixture onto their skin and hold it. The object is to see who has the higher pain tolerance and can withstand the burning pain the longest."

Teens are giving themselves second and third degree burns with this dangerous "game." Google "salt and ice" to see just how damaging the results can be.  

Butt chugging/eyeballing

Vodka - Teen butt chugging and eyeballing

If the name "butt chugging" scares you, wait until you read more about this teen trend. Instead of drinking alcohol, some teens are ingesting their alcohol through their rectums. Think along the lines of an enema — but with booze and for no reason other than to become intoxicated. Butt chugging is extremely dangerous. It can cause severe alcohol poisoning, tissue damage and death.

Earlier this year, a University of Tennessee student was hospitalized after a butt chugging incident left him with severe alcohol poisoning.

Eyeballing is an equally disturbing teen trend that involves taking a shot of hard liquor — in one's eye socket. Eyeballing can cause irritation, swelling, cornea scarring and blindness.

And just in case you haven't heard of this, some teen girls are soaking tampons in vodka and other hard alcohol and inserting them in the same manner they would a regular tampon.

"It's about getting that buzz and getting it in secret... you don't know they're doing it. They could be at school doing it," Patriarche said.

Trunking

Trunking

Some teens think rules were made for breaking and they've gotten very creative about how they break those rules. Many states prohibit teens under the age of 18 who have either a learner's permit or a driver's license from transporting other teens. Some states call it a graduated driver's licensing program or something similar.

Back when we were teens, once we had a license at 16, we could usually fill up our car with our friends — assuming our parents were OK with it — and hit the road. But today, that's not the case in many states. To get around it, some teens are having their friends ride in the trunks of their cars.

Additionally, teens sometimes do this when they have no additional room for passengers in the actual car. Trunking is dangerous for obvious reasons — mainly, in the event of a car accident, the riders in the trunk can be injured or killed.

Vampire biting

Vampire bite

Some teens are taking the Twilight Saga a little too far and are showing their commitment in a very unusual — and unsafe — way: With "love" bites. Yes, this dangerous teen trend is exactly what it sounds like: Teens are biting each other. "It's kind of like the modern day hickey," Patriarche explained. "It's a way for them to feel closer and more connected with their boyfriend or girlfriend."

The risks: HIV, hepatitis and infection at the bite site.

Chatroulette.com

Girl on Chatroulette.com

"The number one most dangerous teen fad is ChatRoulette.com. The site is essentially random Skype, where people — adults, teens and kids — can video chat with random strangers 24 hours a day," explains Nick Monacelli of ABC News 10.

Sound concerning? It is — for obvious reasons. And while it might seem anonymous, your teen could reveal info that would allow the person they're chatting with to locate them.

"It can be somebody in their underwear, somebody not dressed at all, you just don't know. That's the whole roulette part of it. And there are no regulations," Patriarche explained to ABC News 10. "My 13-year-old could get on there and be doing that and I would never know. It is definitely a very, very scary thing."

Other dangerous teen trends

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Watch the ABC News 10 video about these dangerous trends and share your thoughts with us in the comments section below.

Celeb bump day: Kim Kardashian, Jenna Dewan-Tatum, Shakira

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It’s the first Celebrity Baby Bump Day of 2013! The newest addition to our list includes pregnant Kim Kardashian, who just announced she is expecting a baby with Kanye West. We spotted Channing Tatum’s wife, Jenna Dewan-Tatum, showing off her baby bump in a flowing frock, while Shakira shows off her bare bump proving she is still pregnant. Expecting Jessica Simpson and Kristen Bell round out our list of cute pregnant celebrities of the week.

Pregnant Kim Kardashian and Kanye West

Kim Kardashian

Never mind the fact that Kim Kardashian is technically still married to Kris Humphries, the 32-year-old reality star has confirmed she is pregnant with Kanye West’s baby!

Kardashian shows off her baby bump in a black lace dress as she and West pose for pictures at the New Year’s Eve countdown bash at 1 Oak Nightclub on December 31. The reality star is three months pregnant — and we can make out a hint of a baby bump.

Kardashian told reporters that she and her boyfriend of eight months do plan on finding out the sex of their baby — or is it babies? Recent reports speculate that she is possibly carrying twins however that has yet to be confirmed.

"I have felt good. I haven't had any morning sickness, but it still isn't the easiest,” she told Us Weekly. "People always say it's easy and fun. It's definitely an adjustment learning about your body and stuff like that. I've been feeling really good so that's good."

Let the baby name speculation for the “Kimye” baby begin!

Next up: Channing Tatum’s baby mama!

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Pregnant Jenna Dewan-Tatum

Jenna Dewan-Tatum

Channing Tatum’s pregnant wife, Jenna Dewan-Tatum, was glowing as she left a nail salon recently in a printed dress paired with tall black boots.

The actress and her husband, who just happens to be People’s Sexiest Man Alive, are expecting their first child together.

Jenna and Channing spent New Year’s Eve in the celeb-favorite hot spot St. Bart’s, where the couple was spotted snuggling and kissing on the beach.

“Happy New Years!! Here's me w/fireworks and a ginger ale! let make 2013 the best year yet full of LOVE and dreams come true!” she wrote on her WhoSay account.

Next up: Yep, Shakira is still pregnant!

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Pregnant Shakira

Shakira

Columbia singer Shakira showed off her bare baby bump with her boyfriend Gerard Pique. The couple played a joke on fans when Pique tweeted that their son had been born — but then confirmed it was a joke for Dia de los Inocentes, which is Spain’s version of April Fool’s Day.

”We have a name! His name is Innocent! Happy Innocents Day to all!” he tweeted.

As far as their son’s actual baby name, Pique has said that they have yet to decide.

"Concerning the name, we just haven’t been able to decide. There are ridiculous names, like Ulisito, that came out of the press's need to report nonsense,” he said. "There was also Biel, which we like, but I don’t think it will be that one either, or Gerard. We’ll see."

Next up: Jessica Simpson tweets a bikini baby bump

Photo credit: Celebrity Baby Scoop: Celebrity Mom and Baby News

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Pregnant Jessica Simpson bikini baby bump

Jessica Simpson

Pregnant Jessica Simpson lets her baby bump do the talking, as she tweeted this photo of her in a bikini and floral robe while on vacation in Hawaii. “Bumpin’ and proud!” she wrote in the caption.

Simpson made her official pregnancy announcement by tweeting a photo of her 8-month-old daughter Maxwell with “BIG SIS” written in the sand in front of her.

No word exactly how far along she is, but from the looks of her baby bump she is well out of her first trimester.

Even though she signed a $4 million dollar deal with Weight Watchers to lose the baby weight from her first pregnancy, the company has said they are happy with the recent pregnancy news.

Next up: Pregnant Kristen Bell holiday shopping spree

Photo credit: Celebrity Baby Scoop: Celebrity Mom and Baby News

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Pregnant Kristen Bell

Kristen Bell

Actress Kristen Bell shows off her growing baby bump as she was spotted doing some holiday shopping at a grocery store in California. Bell and her fiance, Dax Shepard, are expecting their first child together this spring.

"Obama won the election and I am getting fatter by the day," the 32-year-old actress tweeted. "America has never been luckier."

The actress joked during a radio interview about her pregnancy weight gain.

"I am currently quite a bit overweight," she said. "I'm about 367 pounds. I'm not sure how far that is in months, but in pounds, that's where I'm weighing in."

From Kate Middleton to Lisa Ling, check out more pregnant celebrities here>>

All photos WENN unless noted otherwise

Chasing the Dream: Make 2013 your best year yet

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Happy New Year! With the big date change comes the grand opportunity to update how you do things. That means better working, better parents and better strides toward achieving your big life dreams. Ready?

Strut your mom stuff in the New Year

Happy New Year!

With the big date change comes the grand opportunity to update how you do things. That means better working, better parents and better strides toward achieving your big life dreams. Ready?

As you toss out 2012 and usher in 2013, bring with it changes to make your life fuller, richer and more lived. That's right: You have the power to make this year your best yet. How? I turned to some of my favorite interviewees from all the Chasing the Dream columns in 2012 for some really great advice.

Try new things

Caught up in your routine? Shedding what's comfortable and venturing out either on your own or as a family with new things can change everything for the better.

"Be willing to try new things, fall down, learn and keep moving in a direction that allows you to expand into your next chapter," says Jenny Fenig, a marketing and soul coach. "You are here to grow. You are here to make an impact. You are here to evolve into the fullest expression of who you are."

Fenig says to make 2013 the year you take new classes, fly away on big trips or sign your biggest clients yet. "It's the year that you love with every fiber of your being and the year that you let people know how much you care," says Fenig.

Have a mantra

Resolutions are fine, but having a personal mantra is even better. It speaks to your goals while also serving as an encouraging reminder.

"Have a saying that fits for you and start each day by stating it and even think ahead about the day's events to see what might be challenging to be aware of," says Stuart A. Kaplowitz, MFT. "A mantra is about personal growth and the way we would like things to be in our lives. You get to decide how your life goes."

Check quote sites or recall impactful lines from literature for some great mantras. Or just make your own up.

Educate yourself

What makes others tick? Find out more about how the human psyche works with a class.

"Learn about the fundamentals of positive psychology by taking a class, reading a book or listening to a lecture... Knowing about why emotional flourishing matters so much to success, and having tools to change your happiness set point can change your life in profound ways," says Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP, author of Creating Your Best Life.

Not your cup o'tea? That's OK. Choose a class that speaks to your interests whether it's taking better photos of your kids or improving your writing or something entirely different.

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Do kids with food allergies inconvenience “normal” kids?

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Food allergies are a fact of life for many children, and some schools must make lunchtime arrangements to keep the allergic child safe. Is a peanut-free table, room or even school fair to the non-allergic children? We speak to parents and experts on why you should be happy to keep peanuts out of your child’s lunch for the safety of her classmates.

Food allergies are a fact of life for many children, and some schools must make lunchtime arrangements to keep the allergic child safe. Is a peanut-free table, room or even school fair to the non-allergic children?

Allergy trumps school lunch choices

We speak to parents and experts on why you should be happy to keep peanuts out of your child’s lunch for the safety of her classmates.

Peanut allergies are no joke — even a tiny bit can send a child into an allergic reaction, which can be anaphylactic. Anaphylactic allergic reactions are serious medical emergencies, and if emergency medication isn't administered in a timely manner, it can result in death. Some schools, in addition to providing teacher training on the use of EpiPens, have implemented peanut-free areas of their building, or have designated the whole school peanut-free. Arguments, generally from parents, spring forth as they feel it impinges on a non-allergic child's right to eat what they want. Here's why it's important for everyone to help protect our kids.

Some reasons it may be harder

For kids who have other special diets, such as being vegan or vegetarian, it can be more difficult to impose a peanut butter ban in the school. Charles Stahler from the Vegetarian Resource Group says that banning peanuts from a school can make it harder for vegetarian kids. “Many vegetarian and vegan kids live on peanut butter at school or camp because there is not much else convenient to eat,” he explained. “So in most cases, it would seem there should be a way to balance the needs of both populations rather than totally banning peanut butter or similar foods.”

Life-threatening trumps inconvenience

However, most experts, parents and fellow allergy-sufferers agree that the potential life-threatening aspect of a peanut allergy trumps a child’s desire to eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. “The American Disability Act requires a school to meet the needs of the food allergy child, and it would be foolish not to — it is a life and death situation,” said Jamie Perillo, child and family psychotherapist who serves on the board as an expert clinician for the Food Allergy Education Network. “Kids are generally accommodating and supportive to their peers. It is often the adults who are not. A child who brings in peanut butter and triggers an anaphylactic reaction in the food allergy child would hold a tremendous amount of feelings if that occurred. The rule then protects both children. Children can learn compassion from these rules. A lesson in compassion and a great friendship is worth more than that peanut butter sandwich.”

Child with peanut allergy dies at school>>

Cheryl McEvoy, the director of communications for the National Foundation for Celiac Awareness, agreed. “While a peanut-free classroom or a ‘no cupcakes’ policy may seem unfair to children who do not have food allergies or sensitivities, health and safety are the priority,” she shared. “It’s a medical necessity.”

Non-allergic kids have options

Jen from Canada, who has suffered from allergies for most of her life, agrees that a no-peanut rule in schools is best for everyone involved. “No one has a ‘right’ to eat peanut butter at school,” she told us. “It's not a right. It's simply a choice, and given that a child could die because of the choice, no you don't get to bring it to school. There are plenty of other foods that kids can bring, they don't 'need' peanut butter and they can eat it all they want at home.”

Entertaining kids with food allergies>>

Especially in the younger grades, protecting a child with a life-threatening peanut allergy should be priority for staff, students and other parents. When you don’t have personal experience with food allergies and how frightening they can be, it can be difficult to really understand the need to eliminate certain foods from a child’s environment. All of us — as parents and fellow human beings — should consider the safety and welfare of all children as important as our own and should not balk at a peanut ban.

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So, you got the head lice memo: What now?

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It may quite possibly be the most dreaded memo from your child’s teacher — someone in his class has head lice. After you get over the ick factor, it’s time to take action. What can you do to check your child and prevent head lice from invading your home — and your head?

It may quite possibly be the most dreaded memo from your child’s teacher — someone in his class has head lice. After you get over the ick factor, it’s time to take action.

How to deal with an infestation of head lice

What can you do to check your child and prevent head lice from invading your home — and your head?

If you have never faced an infestation of head lice, consider yourself lucky. The little buggars are much more common than you would think, and chances are you will have to deal with them at some point in your mothering career.

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What are head lice?

Pediculosis capitis are tiny parasites that infect the scalp, eyebrows and eyelashes. They lay tiny eggs called nits that resemble flakes of dandruff and can live on the scalp for up to two weeks. Once they hatch, the lice feed on blood from your scalp. Head lice cause no permanent damage and do not carry diseases, but they are difficult to fight. They spread easily through direct physical contact with someone who is carrying them. Sharing pillows, hair ties, combs and brushes, hats and helmets should be discouraged.

Contrary to widespread belief, head lice infestation has nothing to do with personal hygiene. They are quite common — especially among preschoolers — and can easily spread through a family or classroom. Head lice cannot fly or jump from person to person as many believe.

Symptoms

By the time you see the memo, your child may already be infected. Itching of the scalp can be a sign, but the only way to know for certain is to check his scalp. Adult lice and their nits are very small and difficult to detect, so a thorough check with a fine-toothed comb is necessary.

When you may need a second opinion for your sick child >>

What am I looking for?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has a fact sheet on their website that includes pictures and detailed descriptions of lice and their eggs. According to the CDC, a fully developed adult louse is the size of a sesame seed, has six legs and is tan to grayish-white in color. Nits are extremely tiny, may appear yellow or whitish in color and can be difficult to detect. Lice can live up to 30 days on a scalp, but will die in a day or two if they fall off.

Got lice? What to do now

Head lice needs to be treated — the sooner, the better. You need to treat your child, check for other family members who may need treatment and treat household items to prevent re-infestation.

  • Your child: Treating a child with an active infestation requires using an over-the-counter or prescription medication. Remove any clothing that may become wet or stained during treatment and apply lice medicine according to instructions. If your child has hair longer than shoulder length it may be necessary to use a second bottle of medicine. It is important not to leave the medication on any longer than the directions indicate. If there are no dead lice after eight to 12 hours of treatment, the medication may not be working and you should contact your healthcare provider.
  • Other family members: Anyone who shares close quarters with the infested child should be closely checked for nits or adult lice. If an active infestation is detected, they should also be treated.
  • Household items: According to the CDC, since head lice require a human host to survive they won’t last long once they have fallen off. Machine wash and dry clothing and bedding in hot water, vacuum carpeted areas and soak combs and brushes in hot water for five to 10 minutes. Items that cannot be laundered can be sealed in plastic bags for two weeks to ensure that no nits or lice survive.

Two things to try

There are a multitude of hair care products, special combs and lice removal systems on the market. We found two to try if you find yourself battling lice.

There’s an app for that

Who knew there would be an app to help in your war on head lice? Facts of Lice is a free iPhone application created by Fairy Tales Hair Care, a company that sells all-natural lice prevention products for children. Parents can opt for push notifications to alert them to lice outbreaks in their zip code. There are tabs for outbreaks, prevention, removal of lice and nits and news about lice.

Be natural

Licenders is an all-natural line of lice removal products that contain no pesticides or harmful chemicals. Licenders offers the Lice Prevention Pack, which includes shampoo, comb, bed bug spray, household cleaner, repellant, mousse and natural oil. They even offer house calls and screening offices in New York, Connecticut and New Jersey.

Don’t panic over a lice infestation. A bit of patience and diligence can rid you of those little bugs in no time.

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Learn how to prevent and identify preterm labor

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Being pregnant for the first time has its ups and downs. On the bright side, you don’t know what you don’t know, so you don’t worry about things you might worry about if, well, you know… you knew. Alternately, you worry about every little flutter, kick and pang. But would you know how to identify preterm labor?

Being pregnant for the first time has its ups and downs. On the bright side, you don’t know what you don’t know, so you don’t worry about things you might worry about if, well, you know… you knew.

'But it's not time yet!'

Alternately, you worry about every little flutter, kick and pang. But would you know how to identify preterm labor?

If it’s your first pregnancy, you likely have no idea what preterm labor feels like, and you might not know the best response.

According to the Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy, preterm labor is “when contractions begin to open the cervix before the 37th week of pregnancy.”

Don’t you feel better? I mean, we all know what it feels like when our cervix opens, right?

Of course not. That's why the guide also describes three key signs and symptoms of preterm labor.

What you might experience

  1. Uterine contractions — possibly painless — that feel like a tightening of your abdomen. When I began preterm labor with my second child, my abdomen felt like concrete. I could have bounced a brick off my belly button. There was no question it was contracting; we just didn’t know what that meant.
  2. Contractions accompanied by low back pain or a feeling of heaviness in your lower pelvis and upper thighs. I didn’t have these symptoms at all, yet I was still diagnosed with preterm labor. I’m so glad I called the triage nurse to discuss my symptoms; my second pregnancy really taught me that my OB-GYN’s nursing team never minded a phone call.
  3. Changes in vaginal discharge, such as light spotting or bleeding, watery fluid leaking from your vagina or a thick discharge tinged with blood.

Dr. Myra Wick of the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, is board-certified in both OB-GYN and Medical Genetics. She also co-authored the Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy.

 “Our OB nurses review educational materials concerning preterm labor with each of our patients at the time of the anatomy ultrasound, typically between 18 and 20 weeks,” Dr. Wick says.

“This includes precautions and instructions to call our OB triage nurses with signs or symptoms of preterm labor. If the information reported to the nurse is concerning for preterm labor, the patient will be instructed to come to the clinic or Labor and Delivery for evaluation.”

What may cause preterm labor?

According to the March of Dimes, in nearly 40 percent of premature births, the cause is unknown, but studies suggest four main causes of spontaneous premature labor:

  1. Infections/Inflammation
    Studies suggest that premature labor is often triggered by the body's natural immune response to certain bacterial infections, such as those involving the genital and urinary tracts and fetal membranes. Even infections far away from the reproductive organs, such as periodontal disease, may contribute to premature delivery.
  2. Bleeding
    The uterus may bleed because of problems such as placental abruption . Bleeding triggers the release of various proteins involved in blood clotting, which also appear to stimulate uterine contractions.
  3. Stretching
    The uterus may become overstretched by the presence of two or more babies, excessive amounts of amniotic fluid, or uterine or placental abnormalities, leading to the release of chemicals that stimulate uterine contractions.
  4. Maternal or fetal stress
    We all know stress is not our friend. If an expecting mom experiences ongoing stress, or the fetus experiences physical stress , the fetus may produce a stress-related hormone called corticotrophin-releasing hormone . CRH may stimulate production of a cascade of other hormones that trigger uterine contractions and premature birth.

Now you feel stressed about stress, right? Breathe!

“Patients frequently ask about work-related stress,“ Dr. Wick says. “We see a lot of pregnant patients in stressful positions: Surgeons, oncologists, nurses lifting heavy patients. The vast majority work right up to delivery without significant complication. Just recently, one of our own residents was working the night shift in Labor and Delivery right up to her due date!“

Survival rates

The earlier in pregnancy a baby is born, the more likely he is to have health problems, reports the March of Dimes. But advances in medical care mean even babies born very premature are more likely to survive today than ever before, according to the March of Dimes.

The March of Dimes reports babies born earlier than 23 weeks have a much smaller chance of survival than babies born after 23 weeks.

“About 9 out of 10 babies born at 28 weeks survive,” March of Dimes reports. “But many have serious health problems... Premature babies have less time to develop in the womb than babies who arrive on time. This puts them at greater risk of medical and developmental problems... Between 23 and 26 weeks, every extra day in the womb increases a baby's chance of survival by 2 to 4 percent.”

The Mayo Clinic’s Dr. Wick says, “We now define viability at 23 weeks; this is referred to as the limits of viability. Our neonatologists counsel the patient, ideally before delivery, regarding the survival and outcomes if delivery were to occur at a given gestational age.

“Survival rate in the U.S. after delivery at 23 weeks is less than 25 percent. In addition, there is also significant morbidity for infants born near viability including infection, bleeding in the brain, problems with lung development, necrotizing enterocolitis , and long-term cognitive problems,” Dr. Wick adds.

Real stories of preterm labor

“I went into labor at 26 weeks with [my son], and [physicians] were unable to stop my contractions so I delivered him at 2 pounds,” says Joanna. “[It was the] scariest day of my life.” Tristan is healthy now, but the family happened to be visiting out of town when Joanna’s contractions began, so they spent six months in the hospital.

"Survival rate in the U.S. after delivery at 23 weeks is less than 25 percent."

Women who have given birth early once tend to have other early births, as well.

Joanna’s daughter arrived at 33 weeks, weighing five pounds. “Luckily, she was healthy and did 10 days in the NICU, which was a cake walk compared to [our son],” she shares.

In my situation, Charlie arrived at 33 weeks, weighing 4 pounds, 14 ounces, because he had fluid in a lung cavity and needed to be delivered.

His sister, Mary Emma, born 17-1/2 months later at 36 weeks, came a week earlier than preferred after testing well for lung development. She weighed 8 pounds, 12 ounces, and our physicians were concerned her size would get dangerously large .

Preventing preterm labor

”In many cases, we don’t know what causes preterm labor,” says Dr. Wick. “However, there is a ‘laundry list’ of reported risk factors including infection, drug abuse, smoking, multiples , placental problems, problems with your cervix , procedures on your cervix prior to pregnancy, history of preterm labor with previous pregnancy, poor nutrition or very low body mass index and inadequate prenatal care.”

Patients with a history of preterm labor may be offered progesterone supplementation to prevent recurrent preterm labor; there is no evidence that progesterone supplementation will prevent preterm labor in women without a previous history, or in women who are carrying twins.

Dr. Wick emphasizes, “The simplest advice is to establish a healthy lifestyle prior to pregnancy, which you continue into your pregnancy!”

What now?

If you do begin preterm labor, relax. Neonatologists help stabilize babies born prematurely every day. In fact, Dr. Wick reports that approximately 12 percent of infants in the United States are born prematurely, with almost 2 percent delivered before 32 weeks.

If you receive your care at a hospital without a NICU, your baby may be transferred to a hospital with a NICU where neonatologists will provide special care for your preterm baby.

Dr. Wick says, “The most important factors in preventing preterm birth include avoidance or discontinuation of unhealthy lifestyle practices associated with preterm labor , and establishing good prenatal care.

Know

As with any health concerns during pregnancy, signs or symptoms of preterm labor should be reported to your health care provider immediately.

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Mom story: I’m a single mom with cancer

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Being a single parent is challenging enough, but when chemotherapy is part of the mix, it’s easy to reach a breaking point. Fortunately, Josephine Sili, 37, of Gilbert, Arizona, finds strength in the kindness of family and strangers, as she fights Stage III breast cancer, while raising two boys, ages 5 and 23 months. Learn how Josephine keeps a positive mindset in the midst of cancer treatments.

My mom story

by Josephine Sili
as told to Julie Weingarden Dubin

In May of 2010, I felt a lump in my breast. I was seven weeks pregnant with my second child. The doctors didn’t want to do anything about the lump — they thought it was pregnancy-related. In January of 2011, my son, Falaniko, was born.

By July, I had a burning sensation in my right breast. I went to the ER on a Friday night and after testing, a biopsy and a visit to an oncologist, I learned on Thursday that I had Stage III breast cancer — the cancer was in both breasts and spreading to my lymph nodes.

When my doctor delivered the news, I was with my parents and kids. I heard "cancer" and immediately felt numb and thought of my babies. Who will care for my kids? Am I going to die soon? What about my parents? If my parents weren't with me that day, I think I would have lost my mind! My dad was a huge source of encouragement and hope for me. As soon as he heard the word "cancer" he said, "Baby, you're going be fine... God will help you pull through this."

Treatment plan

I started chemotherapy in August of 2011. I had treatment once every three weeks. I went off of chemo in November and then started hormone therapy. I was on hormone pills for about six months and the cancer came back with a vengeance. I then returned to chemotherapy in June of 2012. I’ll soon start a new chemo treatment. I’ll go once a week for three weeks in a row. I’ll get a break the fourth week and then it will start all over again. Thankfully, my doctor is happy about the chemo results.

Hey, Moms: Do you know a mother with a great story? We’re looking for Mom Stories. Email Jrosewriter@gmail.com with your suggestions.

The first time I went through chemo, I lost all of my hair. It fell out gradually, and then I decided to make it a "family affair" and had my siblings and parents help me shave off my hair. They each held onto a lock of my hair and we had a huge cry fest. The treatments make me weak and tired all the time. The first chemo treatment made me so sick, I lost about 40 pounds. This second round of chemo isn't as harsh as the first one, but it still made my hair fall out. I've become a wig fiend and I love hats, too. Since undergoing treatment, my family has helped me to care for my kids. My mother has pretty much raised my baby. And my sister and father help my oldest with homework and school activities.

The help of strangers

I found out about Singleton Moms, an Arizona-based nonprofit that helps single women battling cancer, through my doctor's office. The organization offers emotional, financial and household aid. My care coordinators have been an amazing source of support for me and my family. They've helped pay for two of my bills every month and they supply me with toiletries, cleaning supplies, household items, meals and they even bought Christmas gifts for my children. Singleton Moms has given me hope when I least expected it.

My motivation

My sons are both still very young to really understand what cancer is. I've had to explain to my oldest that I'm "sick" right now and that a lot of times, I have to sleep. He doesn't really ask too many questions, but is a very intelligent boy. He knows when Mama is going to her room that she's going to take a nap.

Being a mother has been the most rewarding experience of my life. My boys are the reason why I battle cancer. They’re my inspiration to change my thinking about living a more healthy life. And I've learned through my kids that I'm a much stronger person than I ever gave myself credit for. I feel that the key to remaining optimistic and keeping a positive attitude is my great support system and my faith that God will continue to give me strength during my battle.

mom wisdom

Don’t take anything for granted. Tell your kids that you love them every single day. Tell your loved ones that you care about them and how much they mean to you. Life may be hard right now, but things will get better.

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Celebrity mom cover stories: Jenny McCarthy, Gwyneth Paltrow, Alison Sweeney

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Some of our favorite celebrity moms were sharing their top diet and exercise tips as they graced the covers of magazines in December and January. Check out Jenny McCarthy , Gwyneth Paltrow, Alison Sweeney, Kyra Sedgwick and Cindy Crawford in our magazine round-up.

Jenny McCarthy Shape January 2013 cover

Jenny McCarthy

Actress and single mom Jenny McCarthy looked fabulous as she showed off her amazing abs on the January-February issue of Shape magazine. The 40-year-old former Playmate of the Year shared her tips for getting her ageless body.

On her five-day-a-week workout:

"Lunges, sit ups and pushups — because I'm kind of working my whole body. Planking is still an awesome exercise for the core and your arms."

On her milk-free and gluten-free diet:

"That’s the best health change I’ve ever made. I lost a few pounds and have much more energy. My new favorite thing is my soup diet. I make a ton of nutritious ones, like butternut squash and vegetable. When I want to drop five pounds quickly, I eat them for every meal for about 10 days."

On her relationship status:

"I’ve gone on some dates, but I’m really taking a time-out for me at the moment. One thing I realized in my past relationships is that I’m the best damn girlfriend ever. I put so much energy into my boyfriends and their needs. If I gave myself that same kind of attention, who knows where I’d be at my life at this point? So for now, I’m putting everything I’ve got into my talk show and being a great mom."

Next up: Gwyneth Paltrow reveals slim-down tips to Redbook magazine

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Gwyneth Paltrow Redbook January 2013

Gwyneth Paltrow

Actress, mom of two and cookbook author Gwyneth Paltrow appears on the January 2013 issue of Redbook magazine with her trainer Tracy Anderson. Paltrow opened up about turning the big 4-0, as well as how she regained her figure after having kids.

On losing the baby weight:

"With my daughter it had been easier, but this time, no matter what I did, I felt stuck. I couldn't shift the weight. But I met Tracy and she was this force from the second I met her. She pulled my pants off. I'll never forget it. She was like, 'Oh, my God, wow, I just am so surprised, because you look so good in clothes. I wasn't expecting this.'"

On turning 40:

"I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, but I have the good fortune of knowing what they are. I can recognize my limitations, forgive myself, and celebrate the fact that I have made it to this important birthday with the information I need to keep making corrections."

On celebrating her 40th birthday:

The morning of my 40th birthday, my children and husband woke me up with hugs and gifts, and I proceeded to have the best week of my life. I feel really happy being 40, now that I'm on the other side of it. There was definitely some uncomfortable anticipation. But I'm amazed at what I've been able to accomplish, that I've maintained my important relationships and have such incredible women friends, that I have two funny, beautiful children who can give me a real life. In a way, I feel like no one should make big life decisions until 40. It's when it all starts to settle and become clear."

On how getting in shape has affected her sex life:

"It did such wonders for my life, my confidence, my sex life, everything."

Next up: Alison Sweeney's body confidence tips in Fitness

Photo credit Brian Bowen Smith for Redbook

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Alison Sweeney

Alison Sweeney looked gorgeous on the January cover of Fitness magazine, where she talks about being a role model for her kids and how The Biggest Loser has changed her diet.

On still feeling like a chubby person after going from size 12 to size 4:

"Those thought processes are hard to overcome, so that’s definitely where Bob’s and Jillian’s mantras really do echo in my head: 'That’s an excuse; that’s not who you are.' It’s important to take care of yourself. That includes eating healthier and learning not to beat yourself up when you make a mistake."

Overcoming her weight struggles:

"I was a total sucker for both the fat-free and sugar-free crazes. I used not to eat breakfast in the morning because I thought it was just one less meal to worry about. When I started Biggest Loser, I wasn’t eating enough and would compensate by consuming foods that weren’t good for me. I really credit the show for introducing me to quinoa, lentils and other healthy options that taste good."

Being a role model for her kids:

"After I ran the LA Marathon, my son said, 'When I’m older, can I run with you, Mommy?' I love that I’m a role model and that my husband and I are setting the example that exercise is important in our lives."

Next up: Kyra Sedgwick on Good Housekeeping

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Kyra Sedgwick on January 2013 Good Housekeeping

Kyra Sedgwick

The Closer star Kyra Sedgwick is pretty in pink on the January cover of Good Housekeeping magazine. The 47-year-old Sedgwick opened up about aging gracefully in Hollywood, the empty-nest syndrome and keeping her relationship with Kevin Bacon sizzling.

On the empty-nest syndrome now that their kids have moved out:

"There’s a lot more walking around the house naked."

On her relationship with husband Kevin Bacon:

"I don’t know how he does it, but he always makes me feel like I’m the most beautiful woman in the room — the only girl in the room. He says, ‘Honey, you look beautiful. You are sexy!’ Always, always, always! He is so honorable. He is so ethically true. He has high moral standards, and he doesn’t lie and he doesn’t cheat — and I find that sexy!"

On aging in Hollywood:

"I really want to embrace my age. Julianna [Margulies] and I talk about it a lot when we see each other, and that’s helpful. We want to age gracefully and naturally and play roles commensurate with our age."

Next up: Cindy Crawford on Shape magazine

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Cindy Crawford December 2012 Shape magazine

Cindy Crawford

Cindy Crawford looks amah-zing on the December cover of Shape magazine. The 46-year-old supermodel and mom of two shared tips for looking fab at any age.

On making time for fitness:

"I think a lot of women have it in their heads that if they can't commit to a whole hour at the gym, then it's not worth the effort. But that's not true. Ten minutes is worth it, thirty minutes is worth it. Whatever you have time for, it's better than nothing. I try to go hiking once a week and I really love to go with a girlfriend because it’s like therapy plus working out."

On her common sense skin-care tips:

"Taking care of your skin is what you put in your body: Drinking a lot of water… the more healthy diet you eat, I think that shows on your face. I don't smoke. Try to get sleep. Sunscreen. All those things we know, it's just doing them."

On preventing skin sagging:

"An interesting beauty tip that I got from Dr. Sebagh — it made me think and a lot of women don’t think this way, but pick the weight you can maintain, so it’s not your skinniest weight, it’s your doable weight, and stay there. He really feels like when you yo-yo — you lose five pounds, you gain five pounds — that’s really bad for your skin because of the elasticity. Your skin stretches and then it goes back and then it stretches."

From Pink to Jillian Michaels, check out more celebrity mom covers here>>

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Parenting through grief

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Losing a loved one is probably the worst thing that can happen to someone. When you are grieving a loss, continuing to be present as a parent can be difficult — especially if your children are grieving too. How can you give your children what they need during this time, when you aren’t even sure what you need?

Staying strong through tough times

Losing a loved one is probably the worst thing that can happen to someone.

When you are grieving a loss, continuing to be present as a parent can be difficult — especially if your children are grieving too. How can you give your children what they need during this time, when you aren’t even sure what you need?

Grief is a journey like no other. When you are a parent, you can’t just put your children on hold while you sort out your feelings of sadness and loss. Life goes on, children need stability and they may be dealing with grief as well.

Help yourself first

Jennifer Shurnas was in her early 40s when she experienced the sudden and horrific death of her husband. She was faced not only with grieving the loss of her husband of almost 20 years, but with helping her three daughters through the experience as well. “One metaphor that describes parenting during grief is the airplane oxygen mask instruction which flight attendants give you — in order to help your children you must first help yourself,” Shurnas shares. “Fundamentally, you can’t help your child unless you are helping yourself.” Find the support you need in close friends, family members or a therapist. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need, and accept offers of help when offered.

Got grief?

“Don't hide your feelings,” advises Christina Steinorth, licensed psychotherapist and author of Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships. “Many parents make the mistake of ‘being strong for the children’ and hiding their feelings of grief.” Especially when the children are also grieving the loss, it is helpful for them to see how adults process those same feelings. “Parents need to know that it's OK for their children to see them sad,” says Steinorth. “When parents hide their feelings while the kids are grieving too, it doesn't help children learn to process grief. It almost teaches them that it's not OK to be sad and have feelings of loss and hurt.”

"Each year we release three dozen red, white and blue balloons
into the sky in his memory."

“A child observing your own grief, mourning and processing makes you authentically human and credible to them — someone they can relate to,” shares Shurnas. “It sends a message that it’s OK for them to do the same.” Depending on the age of the child, they will understand and process feelings of grief and loss differently — but look to parents and other adults for guidance.

“While each individual’s grief journey is unique, they will hopefully settle into their own process with your guidance and the guidance of others,” says Shurnas. Each of her three daughters found a different way to work through mourning their father. “My youngest child made and edited amazing videos of her father and dubbed them to music. My middle child would draw for hours at a time, and my eldest would talk and write about her feelings,” she remembers. Her own way of working through mourning involved touching objects that belonged to her husband, reading things that he wrote, looking at photographs and writing.

What helps

Sometimes, just having someone who counts on you each day is enough to make you keep moving forward. “It isn’t an easy balancing act,” Shurnas adds, “but my desire to take care of my children while making endless necessary decisions actually saved me from falling into a deep ditch of depression. Quite simply, my daughters indirectly saved me.” After the initial period of mourning passes, many find that trying to return to a regular routine of work and family commitments helps them stay on track as parents — and helps their children see that life goes on.

For some families, observing special days of remembrance or having rituals they can perform together helps. Shurnas and her daughters decided to have special rituals from time to time to acknowledge her husband’s spirit and keep the good memories of him close to their hearts. “For example,” she shares, “his favorite holiday was the Fourth of July — Independence Day. So, each year we release three dozen red, white and blue balloons into the sky in his memory. Red represents the love we have for him, the white is for peace in our hearts and the blue represents our releasing our ‘blues.’”

Parenting can be difficult as you face the emotional challenges of grief and loss. By including your children in your process of grief and recovery, you are teaching them a life lesson and helping yourself at the same time.

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Free and frugal homeschooling

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Homeschooling doesn't have to cost a fortune. There are many ways to cut costs and save money while not sacrificing the quality of your child's education. With a library card, a bit of work, swapping skills and some bargaining, you can homeschool your children without breaking the bank!

Homeschooling family

Here are a few tips our family has found helpful when working with a limited budget.

Visit the library

If available, use a library with an inter-library loan system to allow you access to a wider variety of books. Check with your local library to see if they offer workshops or programs for students. Visit the library often to take full advantage of the many resources available to you from e-books to printers, copiers, maps, movies and music.

Utilize the internet

Utilize the internet for free resources. By simply searching online, you will find free math, grammar, music, art and so much more. Don't limit yourself to homeschool sites as many teacher sites have wonderful selections of full, comprehensive curriculum. Free worksheets, printables, lesson plans and unit studies can also be found online.

Combine grade levels

Combine as many subjects as possible with your school-aged children. This will not only save you money but countless hours of planning and teaching as well! I combine history and science quite easily with our boys, ages 5, 7, 9 and 11.

Buy used

Do your homework and buy used or swap curriculum. Check to see if your local homeschool group hosts an annual book fair; you can find great deals on gently used curriculum at these curriculum fairs at the end of the school year. Thrift stores, yard sales, library sales, online homeschool forums and communities are all great places to find inexpensive gently used materials.

Create or join a co-op

A co-op does not have to be formal, expensive or extensive! One of the perks of a co-op is the benefit of parents joining forces to share their gifts and expertise in a subject. If one parent is proficient in Spanish and another had a perfect ACT math score, you can easily swap knowledge to teach well-rounded and smart children on the cheap!

Native Louisiana birds and plants nature trail at Audubon State Park

Field trips

Nothing beats hand-on, real life experiences! Do some research to learn about low cost or free educational institutions in your area. This year we have been fortunate to visit museums, plantation homes, educational zoo classes, colonial festivals, farms and a few state parks. The possibilities are endless when you start digging for local educational resources.

iTunes U - Learn anything, anywhere, anytime.

One of my recent finds is iTunes U. This is a free service hosted by Apple that allows instructors, administrators and affiliates to manage, distribute and control access to educational audio and video from K-12 to college courses. The content is free to download but you must have the iTunes software, also free to download. There are over 500,000 free public resources in the iTunes U catalog.

Free or frugal homeschooling is a real possibility. You can provide your children with an excellent education without having to spend a fortune!

Image credit: Tiany Davis - Native Louisiana birds and plants nature trail at Audubon State Park

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The politics of parent-teacher organizations

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Joining the parent-teacher organization at your child’s school is a great way to be actively involved in your child’s education. But sometimes, when a lot of different personalities come together for a cause, there can be drama. Don’t walk away — rise above petty politics and do what you can to improve this worthwhile organization.

Today’s Harper Valley PTA

Joining the parent-teacher organization at your child’s school is a great way to be actively involved in your child’s education.

But sometimes, when a lot of different personalities come together for a cause, there can be drama. Don’t walk away — rise above petty politics and do what you can to improve this worthwhile organization.

The importance of the parent-teacher organization

Whether it is a dues-paying PTA or an independent PTO, a parent-teacher organization works with the principal to bring valuable resources and programs to your child's school.

Katrina is the president of the PTO at her son’s elementary school and says the students would be sorely shortchanged without the organization. “We fund field trips, assemblies and classroom parties,” explains Katrina. “We decorate the school for holidays and events, and we buy a lot of supplies for the teachers that aren't included in the district budget.”

School supplies your child's teacher can't afford>>

Why you should join

Mom Kelli has two children in the elementary school and another who’ll start in a few short years. “I joined the PTO at the school’s first open house and I haven’t missed a meeting in five years," she gushed. "I cannot think of a better way to be involved in my kids’ education.”

Research indicates that when parents get involved, children do better in school, according to PTO Today.com. “It’s inconceivable to me that more parents aren’t willing to get involved,” said Katrina.

When a teacher doesn't like your child>>

When helping becomes a chore

Unfortunately, not everyone finds joining the PTA or PTO to be a positive experience. Melanie eagerly jumped in with both feet but was soon overwhelmed. “I thought I’d volunteer an hour or so a month, but I was spending three or four hours every week at the school or another parent’s house.”

It's easy to become resentful when volunteering becomes drudgery. “I was frustrated that everyone’s kids were benefitting from the efforts of just a few moms," continued Melanie. "Many times I wanted to quit, but I didn't want to let my own kids down."

The work may fall to a "few" because the "many" either a) don't see a need to step up, or b) don't feel welcome. "The same clique of women ran our PTO for years," said Robyn. "The president had four kids, and she planned to see every one of them through before she stepped down. She and her groupies didn't need me."

Helping or hovering: Why do you volunteer in the classroom?>>

Parents behaving badly

After a dear friend was accused of stealing money from the PTO treasury, Luanne vowed she wouldn't join until the leadership changed. Eventually it did. But one problem was replaced by another.

"I introduced myself to the new PTO secretary and asked how things were going with the new officers," Luanne recalled. "My jaw dropped when the secretary said, 'Oh, things will be better now that we've gotten rid of the dirties.' Now I won't go anywhere near the PTO."

How to deal with a mean girl>>

Rising above the drama

Recruiting new parents isn't the only issue. Conflict among active members can destroy the PTO’s efforts, projects and even the organization itself. If yours is unable to settle differences, then efforts should be made to at least move past them.

“Naturally, as with any politically-charged organization, personality conflicts will take place,” says parenting expert Dr. John Duffy, author of The Available Parent. “But if you keep the mission in mind — creating and maintaining the most effective learning atmosphere for children — you should be willing to work through those conflicts, find smart compromises and derive the most useful solutions.”

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