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Winter ice wreath craft for kids

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Keeping kids entertained when it's cold outside is always a challenge for moms and dads. Make the most out of winter's frigid temperatures with a frozen winter ice wreath! Gather up some beautiful treasures from nature, like pretty winter berries and pine cones, and freeze them in the wreath. The kids will love watching their handmade craft glisten in the window.

Ice wreath

What you'll need:

  • a Bundt pan
  • pine cones, branches, berries, and other pieces of nature
  • twine
  • scissors
  • filtered water
  • a pot

What you'll do:

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Go outside and gather up some objects from nature. Winter berries, pine cones, and evergreen sprigs can all be found in the winter season and will look great in the ice wreath. Arrange your objects in the Bundt pan.

Making an ice wreath

2

Fill your pot with filtered water and bring it to a boil. Have Mom or Dad carefully pour the boiling water into the Bundt pan. Freezing boiling water helps the water freeze clear rather than cloudy.

Fill pan with water

3

If you live in a climate that allows for it, set the Bundt pan outside to freeze. If it's too warm where you live, then put the pan in the freezer. Allow the wreath to freeze overnight.

Ice wreath freezing outside

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Remove the ice wreath from the pan. If it doesn't come out easily, you can run warm water over the outside of the pan for a minute or two to loosen it. Cut a piece of twine that is 18-24 inches long. Loop the twine through the ice wreath and tie the two ends in a knot.

Ice wreath twine

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Hang the ice wreath outside in a sunny spot and watch it glisten. Kids will enjoy watching the ice wreath change shape as it melts too.

Hanging ice wreath

Image credit: Amy Vowles

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Which exit for autism?

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Despite all the research and data, endless debate continues about why New Jersey has a high rate of autism diagnosis. Is there something in the water or is it because the state has the best diagnosis and screening capabilities?
New Jersey sign

Despite all the research and data, endless debate continues about why New Jersey has a high rate of autism diagnosis. Is there something in the water or is it because the state has the best diagnosis and screening capabilities?

Leading states for autism diagnosis

When in the midst of our first date dinner conversation, my future husband said, “I will never live in New Jersey.”

While his statement had more to do with a much longer and more inconvenient work commute and less to do with my dearly beloved and much-maligned home state, two things immediately became crystal clear: 1) Who the [expletive deleted] does this guy think he is?, and 2) If he wanted to live with Jane Goodall or Dian Fossey’s gorillas in a malaria-filled tropical rain forest, I’d happily go along for the ride.

Who's from Jersey?

Still, the thought of not living in the Garden State depressed me. Aside from Bruce Springsteen, Jon Bon Jovi and Whitney Houston— “the usual suspects” — New Jersey is home to many people of fame and renown. Heck, my own hometown of West Orange — the recent movie The Oranges paid homage to my hometown and its neighboring communities — boasts such famous residents : 

  • Allison Ziering-Walmark and Ian ZieringInventor Thomas Edison
  • Israeli Ambassador to the United States Michael Oren
  • Songwriters Carole King and Gerry Goffin
  • truTV’s In Session co-anchor Vinnie Politan
  • CNN political analyst Hilary Rosen
  • NASA astronauts and American heroes Scott and Mark Kelly
  • Whoopi Goldberg
  • David Cassidy
  • Michael Pitt
  • Scott Wolf
  • My own first cousin, Ian Ziering .

The three S's

Sparkle princess

Something about the Garden State inspires romance . For us, New Jersey is about an innate love of the three S's: sparkles, spangles and spandex. It’s about how we created and perfected “How you doin’?” long before Joey Tribbiani. It’s about going “down the shore” for endless summers… it’s about knowing — from birth, really — every single New Jersey Turnpike and Garden State Parkway exit. It’s about Bruce singing about the virtues of being “in love with a Jersey girl.” New Jersey breeds a cult of personality. There must be something in the water.

NJ rules!

And, that’s just it. People say there really is something in the water. Despite all its plentiful assets, the Great State of New Jersey ranks second in the nation for children diagnosed with autism — about 1 in 49; the current national average is 1 in 88 — according to data the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention .

For non-Jerseyans who haughtily grumble, “Of course New Jersey leads the nation in autism diagnosis; the place is nothing more than a toxic dump…” know this: The statistics are misleading. Utah and New Jersey lead the nation in the number of children diagnosed with autism precisely because they have the best diagnosis and screening capabilities; New Jersey in particular, prides itself on its sophisticated autism screening and diagnostic services, which can lead to all-important early intervention programs.

Not so sweet home Alabama

In direct opposition to the nation’s staggering upswing in autism diagnosis, one state bucks the trend. Alabama might be a place “where the skies are so blue,” but the state remains one of our nation’s most financially troubled. The fact that Alabama reports a drop rather than a rise in its autism rates is not cause for celebration; it’s cause for fear. Unlike New Jersey, Alabama’s educational system — and the state itself — simply does not have the ways, means or time to properly diagnose its children, which means a large percentage of the special needs population is tragically underserved, if served at all. There is nothing remotely “Sweet Home” about this burgeoning health crisis.

Endless debate

Despite all the research and data, endless debate continues about why New Jersey has a high rate of autism diagnosis. While some contend that Newark and its surrounding areas with its heavy industry and manufacturing are solely responsible for New Jersey’s high autism rate, Roger Kurlan, M.D., a neurologist at Overlook Medical Center in Summit , is leading a study to identify genetic patterns that may distinguish children with autism.

"Genetics looks to be the most important factor in the development of autism."

“We don't know a great deal about autism,” Dr. Kurlan stated, “but virtually every human disease is a combination of genetics and environmental factors... Genetics looks to be the most important factor in the development of autism." Like Dr. Kurlan, I believe wholeheartedly that my son Ethan’s autism is a result of genetics combined with the now-excessive environmental toxins, chemicals and plastics. Autism isn’t New Jersey specific; it’s universally prolific.

The gift of Jersey DNA

What is Jersey specific is that you can take a person out of Jersey, but you can never take New Jersey out of the person. True to his word, my husband and I settled in Connecticut. He may have won that battle but will certainly lose the war. You see, our son with autism fell in love with Springsteen and Bon Jovi music, so our home always rocks with a Jersey beat, and our daughter refuses to leave the house unless her outfit is adorned with an abundance of sparkles and spangles. Of all the gifts I could give my children, having Jersey DNA is the best gift of all. And they are the best argument for genetic predisposition, as far as I’m concerned.

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6 Exercises to help kids with Down syndrome learn to walk

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Children with Down syndrome often have a much harder time learning to walk, primarily because of their characteristic low muscle tone. Here are six exercises one physical therapist recommends to help children build strength.

Building muscle is critical to helping children with Ds combat low muscle tone and reach development milestones. Nikki Degner, MPT, works with children with special needs at Move and Grow! in Huntersville, North Carolina. Her daughter, Nora, and Charlie teamed up to demonstrate six of Nikki’s most recommended exercises to strengthen muscles key to walking.

Climbing stairs

Charlie on the stairs

This exercise has multiple benefits, Nikki says. “By working with your child to learn to climb stairs, you’re teaching a skill they’ll need throughout their lifetime, and you’re also strengthening all the ‘core’ and leg muscles needed to walk.”

An additional benefit is safety. “If your child learns how to safely climb and descend stairs, you decrease the risk of what could happen during those three seconds when he manages to elude you and approach a staircase,” Nikki adds.

In these photos, note that Nikki is supporting Charlie’s waist as he steadies himself with the railing, then presses a gentle “reminder” at his knees so he bends his knees to climb up. Taking a step up, then leaning on that knee and using that leg’s muscles to rise to the next step builds both leg and abdominal muscles.

Next up: Work is the pits!

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Work is the pits!

Ballpit

How can ball pits help build muscles? Kids use their abdominal muscles to sit back up among the balls, which will constantly shift and force them to use their trunk muscles.

“Kids love to flop among the balls,” Nikki points out. “So make them work by covering your child’s torso with balls so he has to ‘climb’ out. This engages all his abdominal muscles and trunk muscles overall.”

Next up: Have a ball!

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Easy exercise ball techniques

An exercise ball helps strengthen critical abdominal muscles — and kids love to bounce and balance! Two easy exercises can make all the difference:

Focus on balance

Balance - exercise ball


Note that Nikki is supporting Charlie on the exercise ball by holding onto his thighs, not his waist. “If a child really needs help, it’s OK to start by stabilizing them by holding their waists, but they’ll get a better workout by using their abdominal muscles to balance on the ball while you secure them at the thighs,” she says.

Nikki’s daughter, Nora, is older and stronger than Charlie, so Nikki only needs to support her at the knees as she balances on the ball.

Make your child’s abdominal muscles do the work by bouncing up and down and gently rocking the ball from side to side and front to back. As your child balances without touching the ball or you, these exercises build strength in abdominal and back muscles. An added benefit: These exercises help build confidence.

“Sometimes, kids are amazed at what they can do,” Nikki shares. “Accomplishing something that looks so hard can be a huge boost to their self-confidence, and you might get even more out of the workout because he’ll be willing to try more.”

Crunch time

Crunches

Another fun exercise: Have your child lay back on the ball while you secure him at the hips and thighs. As he crosses his body by reaching to the left with his right hand and to the right with his left hand as he sits up , he flexes the oblique muscles.

“Making ‘workouts’ fun is the best trick to getting a child to work with you and not against you,” Nikki shares. “If your child is cranky or fighting a particular activity, switch it up and try again later. You’ll both waste precious energy struggling to get through the motions, and the end result is less benefit than if the child is engaged.”

Next up: Take a squat

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Squats

Squats

We’ve all done them, knowingly and painstakingly. But it’s easy to sneak squats into your child’s play by strategically placing toys where he needs to squat down to retrieve them.

Note how Nikki’s hands are at Charlie’s knees, gently reminding him to bend and squat instead of keeping his knees locked and stretching to his toes without bending. Once the child is in a squatting position, Nikki recommends creating an excuse to hang out there for a while, which helps to build thigh, trunk, hips and glute muscles.

Next up: Reach for the stars!

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Reaching from knees

Charlie reaching

Again, it’s all about combining play with workouts that build muscle and balance. By encouraging your child to play from his knees, he can increase his balance and strengthen his legs. This exercise can also focus on fine motor development, by including a toy that requires specific finger movements, such as pushing a button or turning a wheel.

“Any higher surface will do,” Nikki says. “A step stool or small ottoman will do the trick. Even a stack of pillows creates a challenge high enough to make your child reach for objects on top.”

Next up: Creative crawling

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Crawling — army or otherwise

Crawling


When Charlie was about 15 months, he refused to crawl or even try to walk. He got wherever he wanted to go via the “army” crawl, moving along the floor on his stomach by pulling with his arms and legs. While I fretted, Nikki assured me this method was helping to build muscle for when his stubborn streak gave way to his desire to walk.

Of course, now that he’s walking, the army crawl is a thing of the past. But introducing a fun tunnel or by stacking pillows under a big blanket, you can create a challenging way to bring back the benefits of crawling — and continue to build those arm, leg and abdominal muscles.

“Every parent is eager to see her child reach the next milestone,” Nikki explains. “But each child is determined to move at his own pace, so the best thing we can do is maximize their existing interests to build strength and balance, all preparing him for the moment when he decides he wants to get to the next level.”

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Anorexia and bulimia: Illnesses or lifestyle choices?

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While most of us view eating disorders as dangerous illnesses, some people are finding acceptance and even encouragement in online communities often referred to as “pro-ana” and “pro-mia” . These websites beg the question: Are eating disorders truly illnesses or simply lifestyle choices?
Anorexic teen

Eating disorders glorified online

While most of us view eating disorders as dangerous illnesses, some people are finding acceptance and even encouragement in online communities often referred to as “pro-ana” and “pro-mia” .

These websites beg the question: Are eating disorders truly illnesses or simply lifestyle choices?

Across the country, teenage girls pick themselves apart while staring into full-length mirrors and mothers feel pressure to lose weight immediately after delivering their babies. Clearly we are obsessed with weight, but should we be glorifying extreme efforts to lose it?

A sinister community

Eating disorders, body image and societal pressure to be thin are topics that seem to infiltrate every high school, college dorm and gym. Some mommy groups even focus on losing baby weight. Under this pressure to be thin, plenty of women and girls find themselves falling into eating disorders and find validation online. Some say pro-ana and pro-mia sites lightheartedly glorify the "choice" to get thin by any means. "While an individual may claim that living with an eating disorder is a lifestyle choice, the truth is that an eating disorder is a dangerous illness that must be taken very seriously," says Erica Ives, M.A., MFT, CEDS, a marriage and family therapist and eating disorder specialist.

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Pursuing perfection

"By framing eating disorders as a lifestyle choice, sufferers may have a false sense of control..."

An eating disorder is insidious enough without an entire subculture justifying destructive behavior as a way of life. By framing eating disorders as a lifestyle choice, sufferers may have a false sense of control — a belief that they can stop whenever they feel like it without ramifications.

"[These websites] provide a forum, to gather and share successes in their pursuit for perfection, to praise one another for ‘accomplishments,’ and challenge one another to be better and more skilled at their eating disorder," says Ives. While many sites claim to offer support or education, few, if any, truly address the needs of a person suffering from an eating disorder.

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Easily susceptible

It’s not just teens that are susceptible to anorexia and/or bulimia, and there’s no single cause of eating disorders. It seems the combination of societal pressures, media images and transitional life experiences can leave us all vulnerable. "The increase of media outlets and influence, including blogs, which endorse the pro eating disorder lifestyle, can be extremely intriguing to the teen, young adult and even the ‘first time’ mom population," says Ives. "These are developmental stages where there is a great deal of vulnerability to conform to a new identity and to fit in amongst peers."

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Convincing argument

Most eating disorder experts agree that anorexia and bulimia are serious mental health issues, not lifestyle choices. But, when perfection is the goal, we can talk ourselves into believing that an ‘ideal body’ can be reached through unhealthy choices. While sufferers of eating disorders may use this argument to convince themselves that they are in control, they are rarely able to convince their loved ones.

If you or a loved one is struggling with an eating disorder, contact a qualified professional.

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Space travel baby names that are out of this world

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Are you looking for a baby name that is out of this world? From Skylar to Luna, check out our picks of space travel baby names that will have you over the moon.
Baby out of this world

Twinkle, twinkle, little star

Are you looking for a baby name that is out of this world? From Skylar to Luna, check out our picks of space travel baby names that will have you over the moon.

Space baby names are the hottest new trend on the playground. Erykah Badu named her daughter Mars, while Sex and the City star Chris Noth named his son Orion. Actress Constance Marie jumped on the trend when she named her daughter Luna, while Rachel Zoe named her son Skyler.

Looking for your own space-inspired baby name?

Beautiful baby names from the stars

Why not name your baby boy or baby girl after the stars in the sky? Starting with the most obvious, the name Star or the alternate spelling Starr, is a beautiful choice for a baby girl.

Sirius is another great name that can be given to a boy or a girl. Sirius is also known as the Dog Star and is the brightest star in the sky. If the name Sirius only has you thinking of XM satellite radio, then consider these other options:

Cool constellation baby names

Perhaps you would like to name your baby not after just one star, but an entire group of stars that form a cool pattern called a constellation. There are actually 88 recognized constellations — and we hand-picked the best names from the batch.

Perfect planet baby names

The following planet baby names have a celestial sound to them.

Planets and moons and comets

Pluto is no longer considered a planet, but a “planetoid” — but still makes a cute name.

The moon is characterized as a satellite of the Earth, however moon in Italian is Luna— which makes a lovely baby girl name.

Aurora, after aurora borealis is another beautiful name for your baby girl and is from the Roman goddess of Dawn.

You can also consider using the names of comets, such as:

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DIY games for family game night

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You don't have to drop a bundle on board games when you use what you have around the house to stir up some family fun. From homemade dominoes to do-it-yourself checker board blankets, discover four DIY games for family game night.

DIY dominoes

Felt dominoes

Homemade games help stretch your family fun dollars, especially when you use materials you already have like leftover felt, river stones or cut, unused sponges. These dominoes are also quiet enough to play long after your little ones head off to dreamland!

What you'll need:

  • Felt
  • Scissors
  • Puffy paint or glitter glue

What you'll do:

  1. Cut felt into 28 equal rectangles. As they are roughly the same size, they'll work even if they're not perfect!
  2. Using puffy paint or glitter glue, create the lines and dots on each felt rectangle according to a traditional 28-piece domino set. Allow to dry.
  3. Teach your kiddos how to play dominoes with your DIY creation without the worry that they'll get distracted setting them all up just to knock them down!

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Beanbag toss

Beanbag toss

Family game night is more fun when kids of any age can get in on the family bonding time with competition that caters to players of any level! You can even create this homemade game from any leftover box or plywood you have around the house, so it doesn't have to cost a bundle for family fun.

What you'll need:

  • Rectangle-shaped box
  • Box cutter
  • Bean bags or spare material, thread scissors and rice
  • Spray paint

What you'll do:

  1. Use your box cutter to cut rectangle, square and circle shapes from one side of your cardboard box large enough for a beanbag but of varying sizes and distances. You can even create a slot at the bottom of the box closest to you to make beanbag retrieval an easier feat.
  2. Turn your box over to cut three sides of a rectangle, bend outward and use as a kickstand so your box sits at an angle. Reinforce with duct or masking tape as needed.
  3. For DIY beanbags, cut out two equal-sized squares from your material for each beanbag you make, face wrong sides together and sew all but a small section on one side. Turn right side out, fill with rice or beans, and sew remaining open end to finish your homemade beanbag.
  4. Standing an age-appropriate distance from the box, each player takes turns tossing beanbags into the holes. Whether or not you keep score is up to you!

Brown bag bounce

Brown bag toss

Probably one of the easiest impromptu homemade games you can create, a few paper bags and something to toss offers family fun on the cheap. You can also substitute bouncy balls for beanbags or rolled up socks.

What you'll need:

  • 6 to 10 brown paper lunch bags
  • Marker
  • Small, rubber bouncy balls
  • Bag weights, such as canned goods or beanbags

What you'll do:

  1. Label brown paper bags with point values, making bags set farther away worthy of a higher score.
  2. Arrange bags in any configuration of your choice, weighted with a can or beanbag at the bottom of each so they will resist tipping each time the ball comes flying by.
  3. Take turns tossing a small bouncy ball, rolled sock or even a small stuffed animal into paper bags from an age-appropriate distance.
  4. Tip: When using a small bouncy ball, arrange your bags in a small hallway to help contain the haphazard direction those little balls love to fly.

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DIY checkers game blanket

Checkers game blanket


Whether taking your family game night outside or scoring family bonding time at home, an old blanket easily makes for an oversized board kids will love to conquer in a game of checkers or even chess.

What you'll need:

  • Old blanket or sheet
  • Yardstick
  • Fabric marker
  • Fabric or felt
  • Scissors
  • Fabric glue or hot glue
  • 16 game pieces

What you'll do:

  1. Measure your blanket to form the largest even square possible.
  2. Divide the length of your square by eight. Using your fabric marker, mark equally along the side and create a grid totaling 64 boxes.
  3. Measure and cut 32 squares each equaling one square on your grid from the felt or fabric of your choice.
  4. Lay out your felt or fabric pieces on every other box on the grid and adhere to blanket with fabric or hot glue. Allow to dry.
  5. Gather 16 shells, rocks, buttons, etc. for playing pieces and you're ready for family game night!

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Real Housewives of NYC's Ramona Singer talks SATs and college admissions

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Ramona Singer from Bravo's The Real Housewives of New York City is an astute business woman, plus she's also a wife and mother. Ramona weighs in on SAT prep, choosing colleges and other aspects of preparing her daughter Avery to go off to college in the fall.
Ramona Singer and her daughter Avery

Preparing for college

Ramona Singer from Bravo's The Real Housewives of New York City is an astute business woman, plus she's also a wife and mother.

Ramona weighs in on SAT prep, choosing schools and other aspects of preparing her daughter Avery to go off to college in the fall.

I play many roles in my life — wife, businesswoman, entrepreneur — but the most important has always been a mother to my daughter, Avery.

As a senior in high school, Avery is in the midst of one of the most important and exciting time periods of her life — applying to college. When my husband and I began this journey with Avery, we quickly realized that the application process can be difficult to navigate, but it doesn’t need to be. I’d like to share some of the things we learned that can help your student find their own path to success. There was never a question in my mind that Avery would attend college, but it’s been a long road to prepare her for this point. Keeping in mind the increasingly competitive nature of colleges today, we always encouraged Avery to get the best grades possible. Even if it doesn’t mean getting an A, you can teach your child the motivation to always try her hardest.

The process begins

Ramona Singer and her daughter Avery

As Avery entered high school, we discovered how quickly the college application process starts. As early as her sophomore year, Avery starting taking the national standardized tests, the SAT and ACT. We then hired a tutor to help her with certain difficult subjects. If you don’t have a tutor in mind, you can always search the internet for local tutors. Another option is to use training books and have your child take practice tests regularly to help improve their scores.

The importance of extra-curricular activities

If your child is not a strong test taker, there are other ways for them to show colleges why they are a great candidate. Avery is a strong leader at school and is very involved in volunteer activities. She used the common and supplemental essays in her applications to highlight these qualities and activities, such as when she organized the largest book fundraiser ever at her school. Avery is also well-spoken for her age and is comfortable conversing with adults, making the decision to have her attend personal interviews with college representatives an easy one. Whatever your student’s strengths are — grades, involvement in school clubs, or music talent — make sure that they stand out in their applications.

Narrowing down the choices

During Avery’s junior year, she worked with a college advisor to determine what kinds of schools she was interested in based on factors like the colleges’ size, location and tuition.

"If your child doesn’t have a college advisor at school, there are online resources that can help... "

By the end of her junior year, she narrowed down her list to 12 schools . These included safety schools that she knows she will get into, mid-range schools, and reach schools that would be harder for her to get into. If your child doesn’t have a college advisor at school, there are online resources that can help you figure out what schools are appropriate based on your student’s standardized test scores.

A summer abroad

Since Avery has always lived at home, we wanted her to get a taste for college life before the big day arrives. She went to Oxford University in England the summer prior to her junior year, where she experienced campus life and attended courses taught by college professors. She also attended a summer program at an American University prior to her senior year. This was a great way to help her transition from home to college life, which can be intimidating for many young adults.

And now we wait

Since most college applications are due early in the year, Avery is nearly done applying and is now anxiously waiting for answers from schools. During this waiting period, we are trying to help manage Avery’s expectations and make sure she knows that where she ends up going to college will not decide the rest of her life, but it will be the experiences and skills she gains that mean the most. Remind them that some of the most successful people have graduated from state and community schools.

No matter what schools Avery is accepted to and which one she chooses to go to this fall, I always let her know how proud I am of everything she has accomplished and what is yet to come. When I drop her off at her freshman dorm later this year, the one piece of wisdom that I’ll make sure she knows is to believe in herself, because that is where her she will find her success.

Image credits: Joseph Marzullo/Wenn.com, Ramona Singer

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Parents with disabilities: In danger of losing their kids

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Parents with disabilities often face challenges that other parents don’t have to contend with, but having their kids taken away shouldn’t be one of them.

Mom with disability with daughters

If you have disabilities, should that allow the government to step in and take your children away from you? Of course not — but you may not know that there continues to be discrimination at the hands of health professionals and social workers, and children of folks with disabilities are being taken away. It’s something everyone needs to be aware of and be concerned about.

The facts

The National Council on Disability reports that nearly one out of every 10 American kids has a parent with a disability. Within the last few months, they released a report that, among other issues, highlighted the disproportionate number of children that are taken away from Mom and Dad due to a parent’s disability.

They found:

“The child welfare system is ill-equipped to support parents with disabilities and their families, resulting in disproportionately high rates of involvement with child welfare services and devastatingly high rates of parents with disabilities losing their parental rights.”

"Many states actually allow for disability to be grounds for termination of parental rights."

It’s frightening. Many states actually allow for disability to be grounds for termination of parental rights. Read that again — and think about how horrifying that truly sounds.

The report contains stories from parents who have been through the child welfare system — some were successful in their battle to retain their parental rights, and others were not.

One mom’s thoughts

Sarah Kovac, whose amazing and inspirational story we highlighted last year, has Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita and does many daily activities, including eating, driving and taking care of her 3-year-old son with her toes and feet. We were able to discuss this alarming practice with her to find out what it means to her as a disabled mom.

"Parents with disabilities are not seen as 'capable, until proven otherwise.'"

“Parents with disabilities are not seen as ‘capable, until proven otherwise’ by many of their peers, or tragically, their government,” she shared. “In much of the United States, simply being a person with a disability is the only reason needed to have your children taken away. Legally, it is more difficult to keep custody of our own biological children than it is to lose custody. It is unfortunate and terribly unjust that people like me have to fight to be the parents that we are.”

She recounted her fears that have developed since the birth of her first child three years ago. Even before she had heard of a single instance of a parent losing their child because Mom or Dad had disabilities, she worried about taking her little boy out into public. “I was so scared to make a mistake in front of the staring passer[s]-bys that I wouldn’t take the risk,” she said.

She explained that parents with disabilities are no different from their peers — that they would do everything within their power to keep their children safe. “By all means, if a parent’s disability causes a child harm, step in,” she told us. “But until that point, I think we deserve the respect to be assumed capable, unless proven otherwise.”

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Vaginal rejuvenation: The newest surgery fad for moms?

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Moms worry about getting things back to normal "down there" after giving birth, but is cosmetic surgery for vaginas going too far?

Woman talking with her doctor

Moms, let's face it — we're all at least just a little worried if things will be the same "down there" after having a baby. And yes, he is, too. That's why it's good to do Kegels and other postpartum exercises to tighten, tone and strengthen pelvic floor muscles.

Learn how to do Kegel exercises for new moms >>

Some moms take a drastic step further.

They opt for vaginal rejuvenation. It's not an exercise or some magical vagina fairy who waves her magic wand and gets things back to business. It's surgery. Can I get an "ouch?"

Dr. Roseline Dauphin-Baptiste is an OB-GYN who performs vaginal rejuvenations. She explains,

"Vaginal rejuvenation procedures aim at correcting the problem by tightening and repairing the damaged muscles... "

"Following vaginal births, a lot of women experience 'laxity' of the vaginal canal and perineal muscles which sustain a lot of stretching at the time of delivery of a baby's head. Those tissues lose their normal strength especially as women age which cause women to experience a decrease in vaginal sensation/gratification during lovemaking. Vaginal rejuvenation procedures aim at correcting the problem by tightening and repairing the damaged muscles returning them to normal."

Staci M. needed rectocele surgery — her rectum prolapsed into her vagina after a difficult labor — and vaginal rejuvenation was a "bonus" — her doctor asked if she wanted things tightened up, too. "She indicated that she would be tightening up the vaginal space and because of the way rectocele surgery is performed making small little drawstring 'purses' and then stretching the vaginal muscle across those it would definitely be like being 'revirginized.' "Needless to say my husband got a kick out of that," Staci said.

Is vaginal rejuvenation safe?

Not many studies have been done about vaginal rejuvenation. It's been reported between 2,140-5,200 women had procedures done over the past few years. In 2007, The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists cautioned women about the validity and safety of the procedure.

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"Women who are contemplating having laser vaginal rejuvenation might need a full physical exam, an EKG, chest X-ray and laboratory tests. Most women who are in good physical health could undergo these procedures," says Dauphin-Baptiste.

Is this fad really necessary?

"These are, for the most part, procedures that are performed because of an anatomical change in the perineal, vaginal tissues and the outer tissues," says Dauphin-Baptiste. "There could also be a perception problem which lowers a woman's self-esteem and hinders her in terms of her intimate relationships, correcting the problem can only bring about positive results in a woman's overall sense of well-being and therefore those procedures are not unnecessary."

Staci M. encourages other moms to "do it for yourself, not in the hopes of saving a relationship or starting a new one. Give yourself plenty of time to recover and rediscover your body — things will be different."

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From puberty to parties: A step-by-step guide to your tween's firsts

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You thought parenting a toddler through all her firsts was exhausting, but now you’ve got a tween on your hands. It may not be potty training, but it’s puberty and parties and everything in between — and you find yourself longing for the days of diaper duty.
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Angry tween girl

You thought parenting a toddler through all her firsts was exhausting, but now you have a tween. It may not be potty training, but it’s puberty and parties and everything in between — and you find yourself longing for the days of diaper duty.

Even more exhausting than a toddler

Boys on the brain

The changes in your tween are happening so fast you can hardly keep up. Reminiscent of when she was a toddler, your tween's physical appearance seems to constantly change — practically overnight. And with each passing day, she not only looks — but acts — older. And now she's got boys on the brain and she's asking when she can start dating. So what do you tell this middle schooler who's 12 going on 20?

"Tweens are known for their egocentricism and impulsive ways..."

Former school psychologist, parent educator and author Sherianna Boyle reminds parents of an important point. "Remember that the brain is not fully developed," warns Boyle. "Tweens are known for their egocentricism and impulsive ways. They want to be treated as adults but often resist the responsibilities that go along with being an adult."

"Parents who allow their tweens to behave as if they are in a relationship need to take caution as this is a time for your tween to develop his or her individuality. When relationships begin early, this may force tweens into developing themselves in accordance with pleasing someone else," adds Boyle.

Dr. Richard Horowitz, parenting coach and author of Family Centered Parenting, says, "Defining with your child what it means to have a boy or girlfriend and what that means in terms of expectations is important. The emphasis should be on friendships and that exclusive commitments at this age are really limiting need to be communicated."

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Dating is now digital

Tween girl on cell phoneWendy Walsh, Ph.D., author of The 30 Day Detox and regular contributor to Datingadvice.com, warns against tweens who think texting is dating. "In my day, we went around. It essentially meant we would stand in relatively close proximity at recess, and on weekends we might be found in the same group cruising the local mall. Middle school couples tested out communication styles and learned to relate through the awkward ritual of pretend dating."

"But digital communication has changed all that. Today, many kids meet, date and break up all via text without ever uttering a face-to-face word to each other. They may not sit at the same lunch table or even be together in class."

"While some parents may think this high-tech version of puppy love is a safe way to date because it involves no physical contact, I beg to differ. Important lessons about communication and emotional intimacy are being lost when our children can't even speak to each other," adds Walsh.

Co-ed parties

In what feels like the blink of an eye, birthday parties for your little girl that were once a group of round-faced kids huddled around a sheet cake are now parties with girls and boys huddled around their cell phones. So when do you let your tween attend her first co-ed party and what do you need to know to prepare both her and yourself for this big leap?

"There is no arbitrary right time. It depends on the maturity level of your child and determining if your child wants to go to the party because of peer pressure or they really seem interested," says Horowitz.

So if you and your child decide it's OK for him to attend? "For the first party," adds Horowitz, "the same rules apply to spending time at a friend's house: Are the parents home? Set a time for pick up from the party. Reminder of previous discussions about family values regarding alcohol and drugs."

Puberty

She's ready for a training bra. The thought of that alone makes your head spin. And don't even get yourself started on how you feel about the fact that her period could be arriving any day . You know these changes in your tween's body are inevitable, but when you look at her, sometimes you still see a 5-year-old little girl staring back at you. How do you help her — and you — transition from little girl to, gulp, woman?

Kim McCabe, teen counselor and mother of three, provides these tips:

  • Prepare yourself. You cannot comfortably take your daughter where you are if you are not at ease yourself.
  • Think back to how your mother approached your puberty — and remember how you felt. Copy what she did that was good, and plan what else you would like to do with your daughter.
  • Be aware of opportunities for conversations to arise naturally — in the bathroom, while you’re dressing, when you shop for your next bra, when on a girls' day out.
  • You can best ascertain what your daughter needs at this stage in her life by spending time with her, tuning into her needs and observing her behavior.
  • Help her feel good about her changing body.
  • Share the fun stuff of being a woman.
  • Encourage her to express herself.
  • When menstruation starts, perform a rite-of-passage. Many cultures have lost their formal recognition of this important transition from childhood to adulthood.

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School of Rock: Your teen’s first concert

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Does your teen have Bieber fever? Chances are you’ll be attending a concert with her soon. Discover tips and tricks to stay safe with your teen at her first live music experience.
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Does your teen have Bieber fever? Chances are you’ll be attending a concert with her soon. Discover tips and tricks to stay safe with your teen at her first live music experience.

Introduce your
kid to live music

Big concerts are a crucial part of growing up. But how do you let go and expose your teen to all the wild fun and loud music? Try these tips for introducing your kid to live music and the craziness that comes with a rock show.

Chaperone the first few concert experiences

Until your child reaches late teens, it’s best to act as a chaperone at concerts and rock shows. Whether it’s a huge arena show or a small venue, crowds can get out of hand quickly. Alcohol and excited adults aren’t always the best recipe for interactions with teens, especially teens who look closer to college-aged. In the best possible situation, your teen will appreciate your company and you’ll love the music you’re listening to. In the worst situation, you’ll be stuck reading Twitter on your phone while your teen pretends like you’re not there. Either way your teen’s safety is the most important goal.

Discuss the way adults might behave

A big concert can be a huge wake-up call to teens and tweens that don’t spend much time around inebriated adults. Something about live music brings out the worst in grownups. Even if you’re seeing a teen idol, be prepared to deal with adults who have had too much to drink. Discuss the ways adults may act before you get to the concert, where it may be too loud and exciting for serious conversations. Let your teen know that certain behaviors are unacceptable whether they involve adults or not and that you don’t condone things you may witness at the show.

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Use a buddy system and play it safe

Don’t allow your teen to head to the bathroom or concession areas alone. Stick with a buddy system to ensure that your teen is safe in the venue. Keep an eye on concert-goers around you and be aware of excessive alcohol use or drug use. If you’re at a general admission show, avoid standing too close to areas that become rowdy. Consider using protective earplugs if you’re sitting anywhere near the stage. Hearing deterioration starts at a young age and you’re better off playing it safe when it comes to loud music.

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Help your teen wind down from the excitement

Tweens and teens have big, bold emotions. Combine those emotions with the energy of a live concert and a huge celebrity crush and you have a recipe for a seriously wound-up kid. Plan ahead for dealing with a teen who is totally amped up on excitement. Try having dinner at a late night diner or renting a movie afterwards to help your teen settle down. There’s no way she’ll be going to sleep at a reasonable hour and that’s OK. Big concerts are a special, infrequent treat and it’s all right to indulge in some routine-breaking and high-pitched squealing.

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Teaching kids about guns

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Firearms and gun ownership are controversial topics on which everyone has opinions. Following record Black Friday gun sales and the recent concern over Second Amendment rights, plenty of people are arming themselves and teaching their children about firearms in the process.
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Gun safety for children

Firearms and gun ownership are controversial topics on which everyone has opinions. Following record Black Friday gun sales and the recent concern over Second Amendment rights, plenty of people are arming themselves and teaching their children about firearms in the process.

Gun safety is a given if you are one of the millions of Americans who owns a firearm. But, even if you aren’t on board with owning a gun, knowledge of gun safety can still be invaluable.

A universal responsibility

Firearm-related topics are often polarizing, but regardless of how you feel, firearms education is not the responsibility of gun owners alone. If you have a gun and/or a child, it’s important to learn about gun safety. "Many parents think that because they don’t have guns in their homes that it’s not important to educate their children," says Tina Francone, an NRA certified instructor, mom and owner of Straightforward Shooting, LLC. "Federal statistics show that there are guns in approximately half of U.S. households. Your kids may come in contact with a firearm at your friend’s home or their friend’s home." Even if you are a staunch anti-gun advocate, there's always a chance that your child will see a gun at some point. Will she know what to do?

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"Just telling your kids ‘stay away’ or ‘don’t touch’ isn’t particularly effective... "

Effective education

Some parents may be inclined to simply instill fear in their children when it comes to firearms or demonize weapons in general, but this tactic could easily backfire. "Just telling your kids ‘stay away’ or ‘don’t touch’ isn’t particularly effective," says Francone. "Kids are naturally curious, and a frank and open discussion helps to demystify them." As soon as a child is old enough to show an interest in guns or understand media coverage of gun-related topics, parents should start a discussion.

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Pop culture’s influence

Without engaging a child in a calm and educated discussion about gun safety, pop culture will fill the void. Violence in movies, on television and in video games can give kids a tremendously skewed perception of guns. "Often times, actors are ‘shot’ and reappear — without injury! — later on in the program," says Francone. "This gives the illusion that being shot either doesn’t hurt or doesn’t pose deadly consequences. Nothing could be further from the truth." Educating a child about gun safety doesn’t necessarily foster an interest in shooting a gun but rather instills a healthy respect for firearms.

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Cover the bases

According to Francone, at the very least, kids need to learn what to do if they find a gun: 

  • STOP!
  • Don't touch.
  • Leave the area.
  • Tell an adult.

Some parents are understandably uncomfortable discussing gun safety with their children, often because they were never taught themselves. In such cases, a respected professional can bridge the gap. "An untrained adult can be just as dangerous as a curious child," says Francone. "The NRA's Eddie Eagle GunSafe Program includes an instructor guide, activity books, posters and an animated video to explain its four-step safety message." Other resources include Boy Scouts, 4-H and local certified instructors.

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How moms can use Pinterest's new secret boards

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You asked and Pinterest listened! Now you can create "secret boards" to keep certain pins off of your public Pinterest account. For moms, this is great news — finally being able to keep birthday party plans, holiday gifts and more under wraps on Pinterest!
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You asked and Pinterest listened! Now you can create "secret boards" to keep certain pins off of your public Pinterest account. For moms, this is great news — finally being able to keep birthday party plans, holiday gifts and more under wraps on Pinterest!

Shh! Pin in private!

Hip, hip, hooray for secret boards!

If you're a mom who loves Pinterest, you're going to be able to relate to this: Ever been browsing online, pinning away, or trolling the Pinterest feed and gone to pin something, but thought twice when you realized that everyone and their mother would see that you pinned it? We've all been there.

Thankfully, Pinterest has responded to pinner feedback and created secret boards for us to pin in private! Each pinner now has the chance to create up to three secret boards on their account. These boards work like any other board you have — you can give it a title, access it from your smartphone app, pin or re-pin to it — except that it is for your eyes only.

Ready to get pinning? Let's get started!

All of the pin-alicious details

The hardest part about starting your secret boards is going to be choosing what to pin to them first! If you already know the basics of using Pinterest, this quick extra step will be a breeze.

Create a secret Pinterest board

Here are the steps to create them:

  1. Go to the far right hand corner of the screen, hover over your profile picture and select "Boards" from the drop-down menu.
  2. Once you're on your Boards page, scroll down toward the bottom where you can click to "Create a Board."
  3. Fill out all of the details about your new board and be sure to click the "Secret" button.

And, just like that, you have a board on Pinterest where you can pin in private. You'll see that all three of your secret boards are at the bottom of your boards page for easy access and pin-ability. These new boards will also be available as an option now every time you create a new pin.

A couple of things to remember... You can always make a secret board public just by switching that "Secret" button from "yes" to "no." Also, you can only have three secret boards at a time, so if you have something new that you want to keep to yourself on Pinterest, you'll need to delete one of your current boards, or make it public instead to make room.

Want to read more about how the secret boards work or need more help? Read the Pinterest support instructions.

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Pin your little heart out

We're guessing that you can probably think of dozens of things that you'd like to pin in private, but in case you need some inspiration to get going, we've pulled together a list of boards that you might want to keep on the down-low.

Gift ideas: How many times have you gone to pin the perfect gift idea for a friend or loved one, then realized that they are on Pinterest too and that they'll likely get a sneak peek of their present! Secret boards to the rescue! Now you can pin gift ideas and even label the pins with the intended recipients .

Party planning: If you are a party planner at heart, you know that rush of having the details of your event revealed as your guests walk in the door. Now, keep all that party inspiration to yourself with a secret board dedicated to your next soiree! From your son's truck-themed third birthday party to your mom's best friend's surprise 40th celebration that you're hosting, you can pin now, plan later.

Wish lists: Every mom has a wish list that she keeps in the back of her mind — often it's in there behind that long list of things that your kids need . Those sometimes silly, sometimes coveted, sometimes lush, sometimes practical things that you want to remember — to buy when you get a chance or to simply come back to and drool over later — now you can keep those wish lists off the watchful eyes of your fellow pinners. Go ahead — pin those $600 leather pants. Nobody will know!

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From SAHM to working mom

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If you’ve been a stay-at-home mom for any length of time beyond a traditional maternity leave, it can be a huge transition for everyone in the family when you become employed again outside the home. We have tips and advice from parents who have been there and done that.
Career woman with her toddler

If you’ve been a stay-at-home mom for any length of time beyond a traditional maternity leave, it can be a huge transition for everyone in the family when you become employed again outside the home.

Easing the transition

Are you headed back into the workforce after an extended absence? We have tips and advice from parents who have been there and done that.

Whether need or desire has propelled you back into the workforce, and whether you’re going to be working full time or part time, going from a stay-at-home mom to a working mom can be a challenge. What are some ways to ease that transition back to the working world?

Keep your networks

If you can, keep networking while you’re on leave — even if you don’t plan on returning. Staying connected will not only keep you current on what’s happening in your line of work, but it can help you get back into the workforce when you are seeking a new job.

Work while on leave

Depending on your line of work, if you can pick up a little here and there while you’re at home it can pay off in the long run. Tiffany, a hairstylist, experienced a massive reduction in clients after she went on leave when her daughter was born. “My advice would be to not take a full-time maternity leave if one has a clientele and intends to return to the profession,” she explained. “It is extremely hard to retain clients, and unfortunately very few will come back after finding someone to go to while you're on leave.”

Wait until the right time

If you can afford it, take as much time as you need before stepping back into the workforce. You may have to reduce your standard of living and do without what you’re used to, but in the end it’s worth it. “Wait until your intuition tells you it is time,” said Tara, mom of one. “Once it is, just go for it. You're going to be conflicted with feelings of guilt, that you are neglecting your child, but you are not. Neglecting yourself and your needs is about one of the worst decisions you can make for your family.”

Think of the benefits

Many moms who return to work after being at home for a few years report that they reap benefits that they weren’t necessarily expecting. “After the initial ‘nervous’ wore off, I loved having something outside of the house to focus on,” explained Jo, mom of two who waited until her youngest was 4 to go back to work. Lisa, who went back to work when her son was 18 months old, agreed. “Work saved my sanity,” she said.

Start a routine

Even before you land your first post-baby job, start a good routine that will carry over when you go back to work. Stacy, mom of two, found that a solid evening routine helped her make every minute count. “We don't have a whole lot of time at night to do everything we need to do, so we have to plan our time wisely. Do we always manage to fit everything in? No. But it works.”

Going back to work is a lot of trial and error, and can cause a wide range of emotions, but with careful planning and preparation, it can be done.

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Chasing the Dream: Toss those nagging thoughts away

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First comes the little inner voice. You know the one: It scolds you when you do something wrong and berates you for not being a good enough mom or writer or business mind. Then those thoughts snowball into doubts and worries and overall negativity. It brings you down. But what if you could just treat those negative thoughts as objects to be thrown away?
Stressed out woman

Tame your inner voice

First comes the little inner voice. You know the one: It scolds you when you do something wrong and berates you for not being a good enough mom or writer or business mind. Then those thoughts snowball into doubts and worries and overall negativity.

Negativity brings you down. But what if you could just treat those negative thoughts as objects to be thrown away?

We all have that annoying inner voice that likes to cut us down and tear at our confidence. But how you respond to that voice matters. In fact, you have the power to control those thoughts and turn them away.

Sweeping away the mental trash

When I was a little girl and I would have bad dreams or nagging thoughts, I would picture a mental janitor sweeping away whatever was bothering me. Then it wouldn't tear at me any longer.

This technique isn't just a child's way of dealing with things — it's one way of addressing that mental clutter caused by nagging thoughts.

"Nagging thoughts or head trash as I like to call it, is the result of deeply held beliefs. With that said, before you change your thoughts, you have to change your beliefs," says L'areal Hudson, a partner at Acuity Systems, Inc., a company that helps executives achieve their dreams.

Change your thinking

As Hudson says, the key is changing your thinking. "Write down any self-limiting beliefs, create a supportive belief to replace it, and begin to act in a way that demonstrates your new belief.

"Your beliefs determine your thoughts and your thoughts determine your action."

This will push you out of your comfort zone, but it will also build your confidence. Remember your beliefs determine your thoughts and your thoughts determine your action," says Hudson.

Connie Kadansky, a sales trainer/coach/speaker, agrees. "The first step is to be consciously aware of thoughts by tuning in to how you are feeling. If you are feeling drained and uninspired, take responsibility and know that you are choosing draining and uninspiring thoughts," says Kadansky. "Rid the negative thoughts by neutralizing them with a short statement that is personal to you. To relate it differently — interrupt the habit of thought by choosing a different thought."

Tips for tossing out those thoughts

Even if you can't silence your inner-critic forever, you can take steps to quiet and neutralize it so that it doesn't hold you back ever.

Erica Duran, a productivity expert and certified professional organizer, suggests these tips for beating your nagging thoughts:

  • Keep a running list of all your accomplishments so when you are feeling down you can refer to them for a quick pick-me-up.
  • Do something counter-intuitive to the thoughts. If you tell yourself you are not organized, then stop and take a few minutes to organize your files or desktop.
  • Remind yourself that everyone feels this way at times — it is just part of being human.
  • Write your negative thought down and then write every possible bad outcome for it and then write down solutions or the truth. You will see that the thought isn't really true or that it isn't that important or bad after all.

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From Mac to Siri: Baby names for the tech obsessed

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For those parents who are tech obsessed and must have the newest gadgets and electronics to hit the market, these baby names are just for you!

Baby on smartphone

Tech-obsessed tots unite! We have rounded up some seriously cool computer-inspired baby names for your baby boy or baby girl.

Some parents took the tech crazy to a whole new level when they named their son Hashtag or the Egyptian family who named their son Facebook. Now we aren't suggesting you go that extreme! We have a great range of names ranging from the more unique to the more traditional that are great for your plugged-in family.

Computer geek names that are suddenly cool again

Nerd names rule! If you expect your baby boy or baby girl to have the next billion-dollar start-up , they will need a computer geek name. Plus, these “geeky” names are suddenly cool again! For example, Kate Hudson gave her son the geeky name of Bingham, while Drew Barrymore named her daughter Olive.

Silicon Valley baby names

Silicon Valley is located in the San Francisco Bay area in Northern California and is a hot spot for technology and start-ups, with companies including Google, Yahoo!, Intel, Apple and eBay. Whether you live in Silicon Valley or hope to one day, the following names would fit right in to a tech-obsessed family.

  • Apple
  • Atari
  • Samsung
  • Siri
  • Mac
  • Cloud

Gamer baby names

We have rounded up the coolest baby girl names and baby boy names from video games, including Mortal Kombat, The Legend of Zelda and even Super Mario Bros! These names are modern, fresh and perfect for your little gamer:

  • Zelda: The Legend of Zelda
  • Raiden: Mortal Kombat
  • Jade: Mortal Kombat II
  • Kairi: Kingdom Hearts
  • Dante: Devil May Cry
  • Niko: Grand Theft Auto IV
  • Lara:Tomb Raider
  • Kratos:God of War
  • Jak: Jak and Daxter
  • Sephiroth: Final Fantasy VII
  • Augustus: Gears of War
  • Peach: Princess Peach from Super Mario Bros.

Modern baby names

If you are looking for a baby name that is modern and forward thinking, you will love these buzzworthy baby names. Most of these names are unisex, with a futuristic sound to them perfect for your future trailblazer!

If you are having trouble picking the perfect name, you could follow Yahoo! CEO Marissa Mayer's path and crowdsource her baby name by tweeting and asking for friends online to help her pick a name. She finally settled on the name Macallister Bogue.

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Get your mama workout on... inside your house!

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It's raining, it's pouring, your workout's getting boring! If you're a mom who loves to exercise outside, the winter months can be torture. Or, if you're a mom who has a new baby at home and can't find the energy to brush your hair, let alone get out of the house to workout, these indoor exercises that you can do in your own home — with little to no equipment — will help keep you in shape over the winter months.
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Winter workouts for moms

It's raining, it's pouring, your workout's getting boring! If you're a mom who loves to exercise outside, the winter months can be torture.

These indoor exercises that you can do in your own home, with little to no equipment, will help keep you in shape over the winter months.

See those stairs?

Get on them. Start by seeing how many times you can run up and back down them in a set amount of time — try five minutes, or even one minute to start. Then, try to beat your own best time the next day! Another strategy that will get you moving, but keep the boredom out of running up and down your stairs all morning long is to put yourself on a timer. If you have a day around the house planned, stay in your workout gear and set a timer to go off every 20 minutes . When that timer rings, run to the stairs in your house and do 10 sets of up and down climbs. Then, set that timer for 20 minutes again and do another set when it goes off... repeat all day long! Need more of a challenge? Start taking the stairs two at a time for an added boost to your workout.

Long hallways and lots of lunges

Woman doing lunges

Raise your hand if the exercise you dread most in life is lunges? Yeah, us too. But, we also know how great they are for our core and our, ahem, backside! For this indoor exercise, find the longest straight hallway in your house. Lunge all the way down it and back again, until you can't stand lunging anymore. Since lunges are meant to be slow and steady, you're going to need a new strategy to keep you moving. Challenge yourself to do a certain amount of lunges each day and make that goal lofty — can you do 50? One hundred? Can you lunge down that hallway every single time you use it? Remember to make sure your form is perfect when you're lunging to protect your back and knees!

Ready, set, go!

Your kids are going to love this form of indoor exercise! Get your heart pumping by creating an indoor obstacle course... of sorts. Plan it out in your mind in advance, or even write it down and map it out, if you need to! Have a starting line, then race around to different parts of your house doing different exercises, bringing your kids right along with you as you go. Twenty jumping jacks in the laundry room! Ten push-ups in the master bedroom! As many crunches as you can do in one minute in the living room! A 30-second plank in the kitchen! Run from room to room to do each exercise and don't forget to run up those stairs and lunge down those hallways as you go.

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Don't forget...

A few tips to remember when working out inside your house:

  1. You still need to wear your best workout shoes. Just because you're in your house, doesn't mean your feet don't need support.
  2. Hydrate! It's easy to forget to drink water if you're exercising somewhere new. Grab your favorite water tumbler and drink some pre- and post-workout water.
  3. Make sure your house is clutter-free before you start running around in it. Tripping over a toy train in the middle of the hallway is a great way to hurt yourself and stop your winter workouts for good.

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Is your only child a lonely child?

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We have all heard the accusations — only children are spoiled, self-centered, difficult socially or even just plain lonely. For various reasons, many families opt to have just one child. Are they setting their child up for a life where he expects to be center stage, or are "onlies" just as adjusted as kids with siblings? We dug up the latest on the continuing debate about the role siblings play in our lives.
Only children: The real scoop
Only child with mom

Does he need siblings?

We have all heard the accusations — only children are spoiled, self-centered, difficult socially or even just plain lonely. For various reasons, many families opt to have just one child.

Are they setting their child up for a life where he expects to be center stage, or are "onlies" just as adjusted as kids with siblings?

If you are the parent of an only child, you know the reaction all too well. Concerned friends, family members or even complete strangers immediately offer condolences or pity when they discover your child has no siblings. From concerns that he won’t know how to get along with others to the all-too-familiar belief that he will be spoiled, are these issues real?

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Social deficits

One of the most common perceptions of only children is that they lack the social skills of their peers. A 2004 study entitled Playing Well With Others in Kindergarten: The Benefits of Siblings at Home found that kindergarteners without siblings were rated by their teachers as worse in interpersonal skills and self-control than their peers with siblings.

"In every combination we tested, siblings had no impact on how popular a student was among peers."

The findings of this study of 20,000 U.S. kindergartners make it appear that only children really do lack the social skills of their same-age peers. Would the same prove true beyond kindergarten and into adolescence?

In 2010, researchers at Ohio State University revisited the question but took a look at social skills in the teenage years, as measured by peers rather than by teachers. Douglas Downey — one of the original researchers — and Donna Bobbitt-Zeher studied the responses of over 13,400 students in grades seven to 12 who were asked to select five friends from their school. "In every combination we tested, siblings had no impact on how popular a student was among peers," says Bobbitt-Zeher. "I don't think anyone has to be concerned that if you don't have siblings, you won't learn the social skills you need to get along with other students in high school."

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Parenting styles make a difference

Lisa Bahar, LMFT, LPCC, agrees that only children can be perceived as more self-centered by others, perhaps since there is less negotiation with another sibling, which helps later in life. She adds, “However, if the child is involved with group activities — like sports or dance — there is opportunity to deal with conflict resolutions in those types of peer-oriented experiences.” She believes that parents of only children who are aware of negotiation skills, appropriate boundaries, communication skills, discipline and consistency are likely to see fewer problems between their children and peers.

Self-absorbed or not?

Another key complaint about only children is that they tend to be self-centered. Any parent knows that children will demand your attention be focused on them, regardless of how many siblings are in the mix. While parenting only one child does free up your attention to be 100 percent focused on her, that doesn’t mean it has to be.

Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, Ed.S., is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage. She doesn’t necessarily buy into the argument that only children must be the center of everything. “I can emphatically say that it is absolutely possible for parents to bring up an only child who is completely well adjusted. Parents hold the influence and power to be certain that they don't end up with a spoiled little girl or boy who grows into an unlikeable, lonely and narcissistic adult!”

Many families are having only one child — by choice or otherwise — and are finding that the myths about them may be just that. Your parenting style and your child’s personality may have more to do with their attitude than missing siblings.

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5 Friends every mom needs in her life

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Positive friendships are a must-have in every woman's life. This year, we encourage you to find these five important friends.
Five mom friends

Positive friendships are a must-have in every woman's life. Friends are there to help you through the tough times, as well as celebrate all life's triumphs — big and small. This year, we encourage you to find these five important friends.

Seek these must-have mom friends in 2013

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The pre-baby friend

Having someone who knows you — the you before you became a mom — inside and out is a valuable treasure. She is the one you can turn to when you need to escape from The Mommyhood to talk career, love lives, the hot new guy at the coffee shop or anything but kids during an all-important happy hour excursion while Daddy has some bonding time with Baby.

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If it has been some time since you have touched base with your pre-baby friends, make an effort this year to reconnect. You are a valuable friend to her too, as you can give her all the real ins and outs of motherhood when the time comes for her.

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The optimist

Every woman needs a friend in her life that she can call any time of day to spout off about work, the baby crying for three straight hours or the heel that broke off of her favorite pair of stilettos. This friend is always there to listen, lend you a shoulder to cry on and offer encouraging tidbits like, “It will be OK” and “This too shall pass.”

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The realist

While your half-glass-full friend is irreplaceable, sometimes you need a devil’s advocate. Enter the realist. This friend will listen to your problems, and then tell you to dry your tears, pull your big-girl panties up and get over it. She’s the friend who can snap you back into reality when you’re hosting a pity party for yourself by reminding you that it’s really not that bad.

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The new mom friend

Whether you meet this woman at Lamaze class, Mommy and Me or the first day of your child’s school, a mom friend is a must-have. This friend can commiserate with you about sore nipples and sleepless nights, and understand the excitement and sadness when your “baby” loses his first tooth .

In the market for a mom friend? Scope out the room when you and your child go to social outings like the library story time, and sit next to an approachable woman with a child your child’s age. Strike up conversation at the neighborhood park or at the morning drop-off for preschool. Plan a play date so the kids can interact and you can get to know your new mom friend.

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The partner in crime

Every mom needs a friend to help her break out of her comfort zone every now and then. This friend will encourage you to try the sexy thigh-high boots you don’t think you could pull off or insists you apply for that amazing new job that just opened up in your company that you don’t think you could ever get.

The partner in crime never pushes you into something you don’t want to do but she does encourage you to do the things you never thought you could do. And she’s there to cheer you on when you succeed!

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Family finances: Opting into dependent care programs

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It’s expensive to raise a child these days. In fact, according to a report from Child Care Aware, it’s more costly to pay for child care in most households than it is to pay rent. If you consider the cost of child care for two children, the cost is more expensive than paying rent in all 50 states.
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Pay for child care through an FSA

It’s expensive to raise a child these days. In fact, according to a report from Child Care Aware, it’s more costly to pay for child care in most households than it is to pay rent.

If you consider the cost of child care for two children, the cost is more expensive than paying rent in all 50 states.

With costs continuing to rise, many parents are seeking out alternative ways of paying for child care. One of the most overlooked ways to cut costs is to take advantage of a flexible spending account offered by your employer.

How it works

I know what you’re thinking: FSA plans are only for health care expenses, right? Nope. Employers can offer tax advantageous FSAs for medical expenses, child care expenses, transit expenses — and even adoption. When it comes to child care, the FSA functions just like other FSA plans. Here’s how it works:

Step one: You contribute pre-tax dollars directly from your paycheck into a designated FSA account and use it to pay for qualified child care expenses. Your employer may also contribute funds into the plan but this is not very common for dependent care FSAs.

There is no step two. It’s that simple.

The rules

There are some rules, of course.

Working parents: You — and your spouse, if you are married — must be working or looking for work. I know it seems terribly unfair, but you may not use an FSA to pay for qualified child care expenses if you’re a stay at home parent.

Qualifying dependent: You can only use the funds to pay for the cost of qualifying child care expenses for a qualifying dependent. For purposes of the FSA, a qualifying dependent means your qualifying child under the age of 13; your spouse who is unable to care for himself or herself .

"You can’t pay under the table and claim the expense for purposes of an FSA."

Legitimate provider: Your child care provider must be legitimate. You can’t pay under the table and claim the expense for purposes of an FSA: You’ll have to provide identifying information for your child care provider on your tax return. Additionally, your child care provider may not be your spouse, your dependent or your child who is under age 19.

Monetary limits: The Internal Revenue Service limits the amount you can put into a dependent care FSA. Those limits are $5,000 per year for married couples filing jointly and individual filers who are single parents or $2,500 per year for married couples filing separately. Unlike a health care FSA, you can’t take money out of a dependent care FSA in one fell swoop — it must be pro-rated throughout the year.

Plan wisely

The funds in an FSA are subject to the "use it or lose it" rule. That means that money inside of the plan must be withdrawn for qualified child care expenses — if you don’t use the funds, they are forfeited.

Keep in mind that an FSA is subject not only to the Internal Revenue Service rules but also those of your employer. If you have questions about contribution limits or other administrative details, ask your HR person.

Finally, while you can combine a dependent care FSA with the child and dependent care credit on your tax return, you may not use the same expense for both. If you plan to use both, you must subtract the amount of money reimbursed by your FSA before calculating the credit. If you have to choose between the two, run the numbers both ways and find which option is the most tax advantageous. It’s always a good idea to check with your tax professional to see what works best for you.

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